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Lifelong special interest:: Horses! Wild & feral, their behaviour, ecology, biology & wellness
Something I’m likely to say:: “I will carpe the fuck out of my diems until I die”

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2025-06-15 10:36:23 UTC

Many of you will know this already, but please share this information widely!
“If your dog will jump in the nearest river, pond or lake given half a chance, don’t use spot-on treatments for fleas and ticks, say researchers.”
Flea treatments on dogs are effective because they are extremely strong invertebrate killers in their tiny doses AND they are designed to last a long time. These same benefits are exactly what makes them a nature-killing nightmare for aquatic life and wildlife that eats them including birds. If you need to use topical flea treatment (preferably this is only if they currently have fleas, NOT as a year-round preventative which is an outdated practice now): keep your dog out of all wild water, even ephemeral ponds, for as many *months* as you can, and dispose of shedded dog hair in the bin (can kill chicks if used as nesting materials).
https://www.newscientist.com/article/2482650-dogs-pollute-water-with-pesticides-even-weeks-after-flea-treatment/ #dogs #dogsofmastodon #dogstodon

2025-03-06 13:18:11 UTC

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An update on my ADHD-fuelled, spontaneous spring bulb mass-purchase shenanigans!!! (See above post to catch up on the funny back story!)
They’re sprouting!! 🌱 I’m so excited!
Photo evidence attached!
Not yet got a plan for those extra seeds I forgot about - MUST remember that I seem to have seeds that need planting almost every month from now, but… I keep forgetting 😅
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2024-12-28 16:42:23 UTC

Who wants an update on my ADHD-fuelled purchase of far too many bulbs for our tiny garden?! Yes, I know you do. 😆
Recap:
A few months ago, I got excited when I saw a deal online for 500 spring bulbs for £11.99, delivered. I bought them very quickly!! Thanks ADHD brain!
Then, that led to a purchase of a pyramid planter for more space to plant said bulbs, because of course we didn’t actually have space for 500 bulbs. We customised the planter by buying and attaching a trough on the back for water and adding some wicking ropes, drilled holes into the planter troughs for the ropes to lay in the bottom of the soil to keep plants hydrated in summer, save water, etc. Then needed to buy 4 x bags of compost!!
We managed to plant quite a lot of bulbs already a couple of weeks ago, but had more to go!
Since then:
A recent revelation is that I actually bought some wild flower seeds as a fun holiday gift for my partner and TOTALLY forgot, so we also have those to scatter in either spring or autumn! (Totally forgot I bought those because I hid them in a drawer!) So I’ll have to see where we are with space to scatter those in a few months! Maybe some bulbs won’t grow, maybe some plants will have gone over by autumn. Haha… hmm!! 🤣
And then, well… we just bought another two troughs. Not that big, but enough for about 30 small bulbs each, closely spaced.
So that £11.99 is now a LOT more than £11.99 hahaha! Probably coming close to spending £200 now LMAO! OOPS!
Today, we just planted the last bulbs that we could fit into the garden, new troughs and remaining pots!! Yay!!
There are maybe 100-150 spare bulbs of about 4 different types, so we did pretty well! We were definitely sent more bulbs than we bought, though, so it was more than 500 total. Hoping to be able to give away the rest and not waste them. Wish me luck!!
Omg this has been the most hilarious journey. But it’ll be the most bountiful floral display in spring if all goes to plan!! 🤣🤣
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2024-10-07 09:25:18 UTC

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Definitely. Every pain has different sensations so I don’t find them easy to put on a linear scale. Sometimes people say you can gauge pain by how much it hampers your life - that might be helpful, but it’s also quite vague. E.g. “does the pain keep you awake at night?” Well, for me, a cold breeze across my skin can wake me up, and while that’s extremely uncomfortable that doesn’t seem like pain, so how can I compare?! Hmm!

2024-09-27 15:10:32 UTC

The autistic trait that is the most dangerous (to myself) is how naive I am.
I don’t deliberately choose to trust people, but apparently I do. I always think I’m being smart and checking for suspicious clues toward danger with other people, but this is not done using intuition. It is done based on learning from my past, or learning from a set of rules. I’m not good at extrapolating those rules to identify warning signs in new situations that differ from my past or the rules.
I tend to fall for things that make it seem like I intentionally use rose-tinted glasses - I.e. that I only want to see the good in people and things. But it’s not intentional. I don’t get those all-important signals when something isn’t right. I miss them.
I hate the feeling when I realise I’ve done it again and been blindsided for a long time by something that was dark or malicious and I didn’t have a clue. I can’t type out here the traumas that have occurred specifically with men. I don’t think I’ve ever had the equivalent happen with non-cis-het men. This means the patriarchal world, especially one where my bosses, tutors, lecturers, colleagues, peers, (some) family and more… dominate thanks to tradition. No, I don’t want to apply to work with yet another potential predator… but I need money.
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The worst is that my naivety seems to ATTRACT men. I’ve even been told this. It’s apparently like a beacon of pure innocence. They’re drawn to me either to exploit me or occasionally rescue me in that deeply disempowering way.
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I try to lean on people I trust and borrow their senses and intuition, but women generally don’t tolerate me, and least of all when I’m in need of support, and so I’m usually left to trusting men for this.
I have strong emotional empathy (I sense and feel the emotions of others, usually intensely) but I think I have little cognitive empathy (I rarely have a sense of why people do or feel what they do unless I’ve been told this or it’s a near-exact repeat of a past experience).
I often feel as socially vulnerable as a child. But I’m a 40-something. I want to have the autonomy and respect of my years, but I wish it was easier to get (safe) support for my child-like automatic trust system.
Can anyone relate?
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