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2024-08-31 01:07:56 UTC

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People always freak out when a norm is challenged.
What I've noticed?
There is this sense of "ownership" of both the child and the relationship.
Family is not about support, acceptance, love - it's about what younger family members owe the elders. It's like a part-time job that can call you in any time and you aren't allowed to quit. It's jury duty. Obligation.

2024-08-16 16:17:58 UTC

The stupidity of the Seatbelt Debates in the 70s lasted well into the 80s and 90s.
I was brought up in a house where, "The car does NOT move until everyone has their seatbelt on". So putting my seatbelt on was always part of getting into any car.
About half the time the driver would see me putting my seatbelt on and say "you don't need to do that, I'm a good driver" and I would have to say, "So? You're not the only person driving."
It was so weird having people take personal offense to using common-sense safety equipment.

2024-08-02 00:21:51 UTC

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I thought much the same way. Now I have relatives who have bad teeth, and to a degree there is a cycle at play.
There are a lot of snippy judgemental assholes in healthcare. It's hard to go see a dentist when past experience says there is a HIGH likelihood that the dentist, hygienist, or someone else on staff will say or do something insensitive and tone deaf. Or berate you.
Then their self esteem takes a nosedive and now they "deserve" bad teeth, and people thinking they are stupid, unclean, lazy.

2024-08-01 23:55:24 UTC

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Same, as a Weird Homo, I found myself concerned. "But *I* am weird!"
But it was pointed out to me: It makes the shitty people lose their little minds. It breaks their brains, they glitch out. They say even weirder shit to try to defend themselves. It's gold.
SOLD! Fuck those fucking weirdos.