kaylades33
Kayla

Sensitive soul. Nature lover. Scorpio. Mom. Veteran. Therapist. Yogi in training. 🌻

I’m learning the bitcoin way of life 🫡

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2024-04-02 12:51:39

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This just screams the entire issue I’m talking about. Do some self-reflection please.

2024-04-02 12:50:53

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Oh no I’ve failed according to someone online 💔💔💔

2024-04-02 12:50:19

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Oh I’m so sorry for using big words.

2024-04-02 02:34:15

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I don’t know how to tell if it’s them or not.

2024-04-02 01:59:04

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That’s how I feel too 🥲

2024-04-02 01:54:04

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Yep! Exactly the issue I have lol

2024-04-02 00:44:26

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I don’t, that’s why I’m talking about it 😊 Ask me anything about human behavior and I got you, but when it comes to anything tech wise I’m completely lost. Lots of other people have had some great ideas!

2024-04-02 00:43:16

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🤣🤣🤣

2024-04-02 00:21:14

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I just wanna shake them! 😂

2024-04-02 00:18:54

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🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

2024-04-02 00:17:38

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This is beautifully worded and I appreciate you sharing it. You’re one of the reasons I believe in men!

2024-04-02 00:03:29

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The issue is hate on posts, creepiness in the DMs. If details are needed, they can message me. Also I’m sure you can see the issue in my posts by some people’s responses.

2024-04-01 23:33:32

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I found it dismissive 🤷🏻‍♀️

2024-04-01 23:32:00

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I know you didn’t mean it this way, but I don’t think people need to prove their experiences. You’re welcome to message me if you’d like! 🤗

2024-04-01 23:30:40

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Living your life must be hard. Whew.

2024-04-01 23:30:23

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You’re the toxic masculinity, don’t project that shit on me 😂😂😂

2024-04-01 23:19:14

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Looks soooo good 😍

2024-04-01 23:05:51

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It does!

2024-04-01 23:05:14

If you’re part of a marginalized group and you say “well that’s never happened to me” or claim you’re not impacted by being marginalized, that’s not a flex…it’s denial. I’m not black or brown or Palestinian or trans, but I care about and fight for their rights and listen to their stories just as much as I do for mine. Hence why I’ve brought to light experiences here in hopes that you’d care.
Human issues are human issues. You are not exempt from any of it. Even if you’re a white man you’re still impacted by it, you just sit in a position of power.

2024-04-01 22:59:05

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Cuz little is never goes away ☺️ we just forget to play when we’re older, or we think it has to be a certain way.

2024-04-01 21:25:01

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It’s seemingly impossible!

2024-04-01 21:23:43

If you’re a man (or woman) that perceives my notes as hating men, I dont know how to save you. I WANT to be here with you. You’re completely missing the point. The people who get it, get it.
Just unfollow me.

2024-04-01 21:20:07

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Some of them for sure!

2024-04-01 21:08:23

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I refuse to do the work for men. Seems pretty damn fair to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

2024-04-01 20:55:35

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Someone gets it! 👏🏻🫂

2024-04-01 20:55:08

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I didn’t volunteer. I said “please educate yourself.”

2024-04-01 20:52:27

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Same

2024-04-01 20:51:30

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“Again, from my perspective.”

2024-04-01 20:47:26

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You clearly don’t understand what feminism is about. If you did, you’d know that it’s ALSO about men and you’d support it. Please educate yourself.

2024-04-01 20:40:10

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Hmm. It seems to be a really dismissive way of approaching what’s been talked about but okay.

2024-04-01 20:35:48

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So because I find things hurtful, I don’t have a life? I’m confused.

2024-04-01 20:30:32

For anyone who needs an example, this 👇🏻 is the kind of men women need.
#note1zlw…k5sw

2024-04-01 20:29:56

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We all forgive you for man-brain, but because you said something and are willing to do something about it! Thank you for hearing feedback and understanding how it comes off to others. I appreciate you 🫂

2024-04-01 20:26:46

These apps always know 😅 Thanks #thepattern I already did ☺️
https://m.primal.net/HqVe.jpg

2024-04-01 20:17:18

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🥹🫂

2024-04-01 20:16:41

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This is giving “all lives matter.” You’re completely missing the point.

2024-04-01 20:15:37

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I can be myself but then have to deal with the consequences of that. Like my example of posting a selfie and then getting told I deserve to be treated poorly for it. Or having a person asking when they can fly to see me. Or that I should kill myself. Or the guys that act totally genuine just to completely take advantage of me. I feel like I can be myself but I dont know that the consequences are worth it 😕

2024-04-01 20:09:04

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That’s what I thought when I saw it 😂 I’d love to be able to do that if I knew how.

2024-04-01 20:08:31

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Oh awesome! Thank you 😊

2024-04-01 19:58:39

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Thank you ❤️

2024-04-01 19:54:27

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WOW!!! Thanks for your help!! 😃👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

2024-04-01 19:53:09

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The hashtag idea is actually brilliant!

2024-04-01 19:51:03

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😊🫂

2024-04-01 19:39:20

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I’ve heard so many people say this! But I have iOS 😭

2024-04-01 19:37:31

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🫂🫂🫂

2024-04-01 19:34:28

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I hope 😂

2024-04-01 19:29:59

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This is what @npub1klr…7gxc was talking about. It would definitely be helpful!

2024-04-01 19:25:40

Everyone proving my point today is 🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻
#note1mq4…e0sv

2024-04-01 19:16:36

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RIGHT 😂😂😂 It’s like they don’t even think lol

2024-04-01 18:59:17

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Yes!!! 🙌🏻

2024-04-01 18:58:26

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Thank you! And I can understand that and I also think a lot of women feel like they wouldn’t be respected in the field. But that’s a whole other issue 😂 It would be cool to see what else could be created on nostr!

2024-04-01 18:56:32

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Ahhh okay. If I don’t like people’s stuff I just unfollow them. If they’re hateful or extreme, then I mute them.

2024-04-01 18:54:40

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Thank you 🥹❤️

2024-04-01 18:54:13

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Yeah I can totally see that!

2024-04-01 18:52:48

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I feel like this would not fly 😂 I would of course be totally fine with it, but then you have to think about people abusing the blocking function. Then the numbers wouldn’t truly represent the user and their content (I’m sure I’d have a lot of blocks but if you know me I’ve only been kind on here). I think it’s just a matter of considering options and seeing it as an issue, like the poster mentioned versus completing ignoring. I’m glad a lot of different people are talking about it today 🥹

2024-04-01 18:46:39

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I know ☹️

2024-04-01 18:40:57

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I love this idea! Is this something I can do now?

2024-04-01 18:37:44

THANK. YOU. 🫂❤️
#note14vv…2klc

2024-04-01 18:35:48

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You’re completely missing the point. Glad I could make you laugh! 😃👍🏻

2024-04-01 18:33:31

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Thank you ☺️🫂

2024-04-01 18:33:03

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Sick of toxic men 🥲

2024-04-01 18:09:45

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Beautifully said 🫂❤️

2024-04-01 18:07:59

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😔🫂🫂🫂🫂

2024-04-01 18:07:28

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😉🫂

2024-04-01 17:48:04

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I completely agree with everything you said. It’s fundamental to nostr, like you said, which is incredibly unique! There isn’t really a way through besides what you mentioned.

2024-04-01 17:32:35

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Exactly 🙌🏻🙌🏻

2024-04-01 17:31:51

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And that it’s not me hating men. Defensiveness really clouds people’s minds.

2024-04-01 17:28:47

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It’s definitely a trade off. I think it’s also the fact that I even have to encounter it to begin with. It is reality and the world we live in, but it’s not something I’m subjected to in a personal way like I am here (except when I was in the military). I don’t think it’s for everyone and everyone has to decide how they want to use it. I’m still figuring out if it’s worth it for me. I appreciate your perspective 🤗

2024-04-01 17:22:46

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I just don’t want people accessing me if they’re cruel.

2024-04-01 17:22:28

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Yes exactly!

2024-04-01 17:21:40

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Oh and I’ve reported users but I dont know what that does.

2024-04-01 17:20:03

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I use primal and mute them. But that doesn’t block them. They can still follow you and interact with your content.

2024-04-01 17:15:34

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That’s just based on my experience here. When I’ve searched hashtags to find other women to connect with they are rarely active. Of course there’s exceptions, but I’ve had a difficult time finding women, therefore it seems as though nostr is primarily men. But I agree that it doesn’t have to be! I don’t want it to be. I don’t know what would need to change to draw more people in. The emotional safety issue is a huge one, whether you’re a woman, trans, person of color or another group. When I go on TikTok I know that I won’t be harassed and have no power to do something about it. Here, I can only unfollow and mute, yet the haters can still follow me.

2024-04-01 17:09:56

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Other platforms allow users to be blocked and reported and potentially banned from using the platform for hate/harassment/etc. This isn’t the case on nostr of course because that completely goes against the whole foundation of nostr.
There’s too many issues to list, but you can research it if it’s helpful. To me, it feels like a microcosm of being a woman in the world. For example, I posted a picture of myself but then received hate for it because I’ve brought up mistreatment by other nostr men (aka if I post a picture like that then I deserve mistreatment). We’re held to the same BS societal guidelines here as we are in the real world. And when women bring up the issues here (in a kind way), we’re still unheard, harassed, and not considered. We just want our experiences to be considered, not dismissed. I hope that helps.

2024-04-01 17:03:22

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True! I totally get where you’re coming from. But if the majority of the nostr population is men, theres only so much decorating our feed that we can do (and significantly more likelihood of dealing with assholes). I didn’t post this as a complaint, it was simply to bring awareness and maybe a productive dialogue about it.

2024-04-01 17:00:08

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🫂

2024-04-01 16:51:56

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No I started on here almost a month ago using my picture and name thinking it was similar to other social media, which I learned it’s not. I just wanted to be me and be accepted for that, not feel like I have to hide behind a fake name/picture to protect myself. I dont know if that makes sense.

2024-04-01 16:42:41

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Thank you 🥹🫂

2024-04-01 16:41:24

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They wouldn’t have it in mind because men don’t need to consider other people’s experiences. The world is built for them. They’re conditioned to be that way, so I don’t think it’s malicious.

2024-04-01 16:40:08

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Thank you for demonstrating what projection means! Bravo 👏🏻

2024-04-01 16:39:14

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Also, quite a lot of assumptions made here.

2024-04-01 16:38:47

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I think you missed the part that said “if you’re defensive you may want to self-reflect on why.”

2024-04-01 16:36:56

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Notice I didn’t say any of those words you mentioned besides “marginalized.” I don’t view myself as helpless, I view myself as unsupported by my environment.
And also, it’s quite the assumption to make that all the women on nostr never experienced any struggle or harassment on here. Tell me why would a woman post on nostr (predominantly men) about being harassed? They would get the same “eye roll” response you just gave me. Point proven.

2024-04-01 16:33:00

I think it’s easy to say just mute the person. But if you don’t have the lived experience of being a woman, or being part of a marginalized group, you will never understand our experience, especially what it’s like to be on nostr.
I love nostr AND it’s challenging to be here because it feels like (again, from my perspective) another man’s world; built by men, for men, that only men will truly benefit from (if you feel defensive after reading that, you may want to self-reflect on why).
I understand the purpose and updates being made consistently. But without some type of protection from the /harassment/hate, I just can’t see nostr expanding the ways it’s envisioned.
I appreciate the men on here that have been kind to me and have my back. You’re the only reason I’ve stayed 🫂
And please don’t come for me, I’m tired today 😂
#note18yj…yql0

2024-04-01 11:44:52

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😂😂😂

2024-04-01 11:44:34

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Interesting!

2024-04-01 11:43:57

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I delete it ALL 😂 I know people that keep everything too.

2024-04-01 03:18:08

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Maybe 😂

2024-04-01 02:51:17

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Right 😂 I don’t take it as a compliment lol

2024-04-01 02:49:05

“That’s part of the human condition, always wanting desire. But that is often not organic.”

2024-04-01 02:38:55

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YES 🙌🏻

2024-04-01 02:26:42

Is it a guy thing to save numbers of the people you’ve dated? I’ve had guys from MONTHS and YEARS ago message me, even ones I’ve never met!
If I’m done with you, you’re dead to me 😂 Number deleted, photos deleted, blocked on social media, and if you touched something of mine I clean it or get rid of it if I can. I DO NOT want your energy around me 🤣🤣🤣

2024-04-01 02:19:45

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😂 My rabbit holes turn into hours and hours and forgetting I need food/water and have responsibilities🤣🤣

2024-04-01 02:10:47

10:10

2024-04-01 02:09:49

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😂 ChatGPT saves me every week hahaha

2024-04-01 02:07:12

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I read this the other day!

2024-04-01 01:52:24