Ada :v_trans: :v_pan:

Posts about my life as a trans woman in world increasingly determined to end it.

Slowly being turned anarchist by the cistem :anarchy_punk_transgender:

Posts are occasionally purged.

#nobot #noindex #trans #lgbtq #programming #python #tech #neurodivergent #adhd

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:ms_18_plus: NSFW Alt: https://kinkycats.org/@adatje

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2026-05-12 09:10:18 UTC

Are there any more stand-alone alternatives to Nextcloud that doesn’t come with a pile of bloat and a dozen unwanted web-apps?
The point was cloud storage when I first switched, and I don’t feel like that’s even a priority anymore…
#nextcloud #tech #selfhosting #cloud

2026-03-29 20:28:29 UTC

There were signs if you knew where to look :rosahaj_trans_heart:
#trans
https://media.tech.lgbt/media_attachments/files/116/312/328/563/201/819/original/e7b234adc5929d7e.png

2026-03-25 23:27:26 UTC

Gemini recommending me Claude as a better conversation partner is too funny

2026-03-23 20:32:39 UTC

Guess who's back, back again :tomscott:
#tomscott
https://media.tech.lgbt/media_attachments/files/116/280/387/560/905/636/original/def9d25e32fa3ec1.png

2026-03-13 19:24:31 UTC

I'm sorry fedi, I accidentally caused the RAM shortage by eating it all :neocat_nom_wrench:

2026-03-07 08:32:28 UTC

Dutch government: Release report on dangers of using American hosting
*Also Dutch Government*: Signs contracts with American hosting companies
*Still the Dutch Government*: removes their own report on American hosting services, because it now makes them look bad.
[Nieuwe kabinet, dezelfde onzin](https://nltimes.nl/2026/03/05/dutch-govt-pulls-report-dangers-american-cloud-service-criticism ) :picardfacepalm:
#thenetherlands #nederland #netherlands

2026-03-03 09:12:16 UTC

Better Selfies in 1-2-3:<li>Hold the camera slightly above your eye-level, so instead of looking down at the camera, you look up (Why: this helps with lighting and avoid extra chins)</li><li>Turn your head and/or body slightly to the side, like 15-45°. (Why: People aren't symmetrical, so it actually looks more "natural" than head-on photos to our brains)</li><li>Add a slight smile! (Why: your facial expressions often dictate the overall "vibe" of the selfie, so a smile can make a world of difference!</li>
#selfie #selfies

2026-02-18 07:48:30 UTC

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can't access the roof, because rental. HoA (VVE) doesn't like the spiky aesthetic :ms_rolling_eyes:

2026-02-18 07:36:17 UTC

I need to find a way to scare away the diseased local pidgeons, so they stop camping outside my bedroom window without harming them...

2026-02-11 08:02:39 UTC

Friendly reminder: not all bad code is “vibe code”, some people are just shit at programming.
#tech #programming

2026-01-25 08:43:55 UTC

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Every single job application can have the exact same motivational letter:
> Dear Company,
> Please hire me so that I may earn currency, that I can exchange for the goods and services required for my existence.
> Sincerely,
> Applicant

2026-01-25 08:32:12 UTC

If recruiters will use AI to go through my CV and *require* a motivational letter, you bet-your-ass I'm using AI for the letter.

2026-01-10 14:35:15 UTC

The trick is to post controversial and/or grumpy toots as people have their morning cup of coffee, that way the bitterness of the brew and life can be paired.

2025-12-19 12:13:14 UTC

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Finlands love of buckets is part of their history at this point :akko_giggle:

2025-12-19 12:11:27 UTC

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Finland will approve of this message ( 🇫🇮 ❤️ 🪣 )

2025-12-17 16:21:00 UTC

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but now with AI :ms_clown: ✨

2025-11-28 22:59:49 UTC

Buying a Lotto coupon every month, because if I win, that is gender-affirming surgery financially done & sorted :blobcatpensivepray: 🎲

2025-11-27 12:15:42 UTC

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I wasn't sure, and you're touching on such an important issue that I just wanted to add some context :neocat_heart:

2025-11-27 12:14:08 UTC

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I think the cause is a bit more complex, and not exclusive to them?
The constant exposure to altered imagery enforcing a certain subset of beauty standards portrayed as "normal" or "every day", while in reality requiring plastic surgery, hours of make-up and lighting prep and image manipulation on top. I.e. It's wholly unrealistic for the vast majority of the population.
It... it harms adolescents, ruins women's self-esteem and gives *everyone* unachievable expectations.
The unhealthy beauty standards set by the tabloid industry of the (f.ex.) the 90s and 00s is down spoonfed to us all through Snapchat, Instagram and other similar platforms. It's so not healthy for people :neocat_sad:

2025-11-15 08:55:44 UTC

Is there any benefits to getting a ASD diagnosis when you’re already have an ADHD one?
Due to rampant discrimination against neurodivergent individuals around the world, I fear the potential repercussions are larger than any benefits an official diagnoses may provide.

2025-09-21 07:47:58 UTC

Listening to homeless people and addicts from around malieveld saying just how much better extinction rebellion are at peacefully protesting (no fireworks, no violence) compared to "these crazies" (gekke mensen) is *pricelss*

2025-09-06 20:12:31 UTC

Trans rights are LGBTQ+ rights
Trans rights are womens rights
Trans rights are minority rights
Trans rights are *human* rights.
If they can oppress one group without consequence, they will keep on going until there is no one left.
#trans #lgbtq

2025-08-25 11:53:48 UTC

Anyone else notice how from we've gone from collectively rejecting auto-play after the MySpace era, had peace for a decade, and now it's come back as a default?
The person/company needs to have their access to the internet permanently revoked.

2025-07-24 20:28:36 UTC

Fedi, how are your feet while indoors (at home)
#fedi #athome #shoe #poll

2025-07-02 10:33:54 UTC

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AAA: 70 euro games, with 80, 90, 100 and 110 euro pre-order editions. Planned season pass and comes with a shop + purchasable cosmetics up front. No QA, often just unfinished.
AA: 40 euro games, sometimes pre-order, sometimes DLC, but often larger and better quality like expansions. QA and release quality varies, but generally good.
Indie: 20 euro games, what's DLC? Developer casually interacts with community in Reddit/discord/etc. for QA/Quality to ensure people like their game.
Solution: Buy indie and AA's, and maybe we'll see more games like Baldur's Gate III on the horizon :3

2025-07-02 05:58:55 UTC

The higher the price of games go, the more micro-transactions they put in, and the worse state it releases in…
Well, the less likely I am to buy it at release and more likely I am to pick it up at a steep discount months or a year+ down the line.
The market is oversaturated AF, so it’s not like there isn’t something else that isn’t broken and/or overpriced available.
#gaming #games #gamers

2025-06-15 08:27:04 UTC

Meal limitations are a social construct.
Have pizza for breakfast and sandwiches for dinner, no one will stop you :neocat_3c:

2025-06-04 19:17:55 UTC

Is there any (simple) way to reconfigure Linux to use Mac-like instead of Windows-like keybinds?
Like many, I use a Macbook for work (over ChromeOS or windows), but this breaks my muscle memory with my personal devices running Pop_OS! (Linux)
#linux #macos #technology #popos #tech #ubuntu

2025-05-23 05:09:17 UTC

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have you come across «operation homeless»?
Norway tried to not only make all sex workers homeless, but keep them homeless. This as an idea of punishment so “they’ll learn”.
It’s a sickening read, and bad enough that Amnesty put them on full blast.
Source: born and raised 🇳🇴

2025-05-17 12:00:25 UTC

Went for a walk wearing this, and got an interesting variety of looks & expressions :neocat_laugh_sweat:
#trans #anxiety
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2025-05-14 15:42:16 UTC

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3.5 yrs, only info was a call to ask what types of treatment I want/need. Never heard back after that? 🤔

2025-04-19 08:52:24 UTC

Oh... oh this is too on point... wow.
#ADHD
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2025-04-04 12:15:23 UTC

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> “access encrypted data in a lawful manner, safeguarding cybersecurity and fundamental rights.”
Is a really odd way of writing:
> "change the law to access > **protected data**> , safeguarding our financial interests while erroding your right to privacy and freedom of speech"
How curious :neocat_think:

2025-02-28 11:12:27 UTC

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but to my understanding, @npub13gc…hkve has in a matter of days:<li>Added a disclaimer to give themselves a licence to anything entered into the browser:<blockquote>"When you upload or input information through Firefox, you hereby grant us a nonexclusive, royalty-free, worldwide license to use that information to help you navigate, experience, and interact with online content as you indicate with your use of Firefox." <a href="https://www.mozilla.org/en-US/about/legal/terms/firefox/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">ref</a></blockquote></li><li>Banned sexual content (porn)<blockquote>"Upload, download, transmit, display, or grant access to content that includes graphic depictions of sexuality or violence," <a href="https://www.mozilla.org/en-US/about/legal/acceptable-use/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">ref</a></blockquote></li><li>Removed the disclaimer that they don't sell your data <a href="https://github.com/mozilla/bedrock/commit/d459addab846d8144b61939b7f4310eb80c5470e#commitcomment-153095625" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">ref</a></li><li>Embraced web manifest v3 (which breaks ad-blockers) <a href="https://blog.mozilla.org/en/products/firefox/firefox-manifest-v3-adblockers/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">ref</a></li>
It genuinely looks like they're actively violating their founding principles, purging any & all good-will for the sake of going for-profit..
WTF is going on?
#firefox #mozilla

2025-01-22 12:19:17 UTC

Boost Frogward 🐸
https://media.tech.lgbt/media_attachments/files/113/871/965/946/604/100/original/a47c9b9dfe9810a8.png

2024-12-15 20:26:51 UTC

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honestly?
I would love to see AI be used to automatically add alt-text to all images on fedi. It would remove a hassle for a lot of people, while allowing even more to use the platform to a larger extent.

2024-12-15 15:01:59 UTC

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no reply-guying here, you bring out some great points, I want to highlight and add to this:
> People also need safe spaces full of those they trust and love, where they can let their hair down and be themselves.
Because this is absolutely true and one of the best things about fedi.
I want the platform to always have this aspect, but also be able to function as a general-purpose social media platform as well. This comes from a (admittedly idealistic) goal of having an open, democratic form of social media be the standard, so that no single entity controls it.
However, I do not have all the solutions. I think this is something that will take many great minds years to figure out*.
Big and complex topics like this are difficult to break down into concise posts without losing some information. Especially so when some of the context affects vulnerable groups or sensitive topics.
So thank you for providing context in this case :neocat_heart:

2024-12-15 12:37:07 UTC

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Fedi's lack of growth comes down to the cumulative effect of the points highlighted in this thread has on existing, new and potential users. It is effectively [gatekeeping](https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/gatekeeping ) the wonders of the Fediverse from the masses through an artificially small [target audience](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Target_audience ) and [groupthink.](https://www.britannica.com/science/groupthink )
For the platform to be sustainable in the long-term, we need to reduce the amount of artificial social complexity introduced. This means to alleviate inconsistent community rules, and recognize that a majority of people's opinions will fall somewhere in the middle of a bell curve, which may not fully align with our own ideals.
Engaging with people you disagree with is an important and healthy part of human socialization, and it is required for collaboration.
Alternatively, the platform will continue on its trajectory of [fractionalization](https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fractionalize ) and restrictive speech until a general audience will no longer be able to integrate.

2024-12-15 11:39:15 UTC

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Fedi's has a distinct echo-chambering problem, as a direct result of the flexibility and distributed nature of the platform.
In part due to what's mentioned in the previous two posts, but it fundamentally comes to how fedi pre-emptively dictate not just how, but who people are allowed to communicate with through opinionated lists at an administrative level.
This is effectively [shadow-banning](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shadow_banning ) groups of people (servers), due to rumours and/or disagreements between individuals or a subset of the group's members. Cutting off communication between the groups entirely while enforcing a binary "with us/against us" view, where a middle-ground cannot exist.
By definition, these behaviours will continue to fractionalize fedi into [echo chambers](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Echo_chamber_(media) ) that will expand further away from each other while disincentivising finding a common ground.
By setting personal ideals as required rules of cooperation between divergent servers, we self-sabotage the platform as a whole

2024-12-15 11:13:24 UTC

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While Fedi's hidden rules usually have good intentions at heart, they are fundamentally exclusionary in practise and stagnates the platform's growth.
Examples:<li>Content warnings are subjective and will never be consistently used. Yet, we shame anyone who don't use them in a way that fits an individual world-view.</li><li>Hashtags, both in number, usage and even positioning within a post, gets frequently called out. Even though, we actively push new users to utilize them.</li><li>Pins are great for holding onto posts that mean something to you, but awful when they're used as a mile long corporate ToS that you must fine-read and agree to, before interacting with the person.</li>
Many of these can be summarized as "I don't like the way you expressed yourself" but instead of just saying that, it's framed as: "you are a bad person for not thinking and expressing yourself like me"
These are opinions, **not** rules required for a community to function, or guidelines upon which moderators act on in order to prevent abuse.

2024-12-15 10:52:24 UTC

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A lot of (but not all)* Fedi meta is effectively modern-day witch hunts, and more often than not akin to personal vendettas perpetuated by [cry-bullies](https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/crybully ) Internet investigators driven by strong opinions and fuelled by their own heavily filtered and censored echo-chambers is not an attractive feature of this platform. It's one of our biggest flaws.
This is regardless of whether the complaint is accurate, factual, or it being something people in general actually care about. If people did *a fraction* of what they're accused of on fedi, they would be serving prison sentences, not writing meta posts.
I can't help but see the parallels from a lot of the discussions about 'meta' (rumours) and the way teenagers communicate in the halls of a high school. It's just so immature.
**Note: This is a general statement on meta, and not directed at any specific meta**
*That I have to write ⬆️ statement to avoid* [reply-guys](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reply_guy ) *is part of the problem*

2024-12-15 10:04:45 UTC

I have thoughts on fedi meta
On fedi’s hidden rules
On fedi’s echo chambering
On fedi’s lack of growth
And on bluesky already being several times fedi’s size.
I need coffee before these thoughts can begin to be properly expressed

2024-12-01 11:06:21 UTC

Hey fedi, how does bluesky bridge work?
Please share some resources :ms_two_hearts:
#fedi #askfedi #bluesky #bridge

2024-11-10 09:26:02 UTC

Sencondsies required
https://media.tech.lgbt/media_attachments/files/113/457/937/896/822/402/original/5420b22f6b273666.png

2024-11-04 14:35:22 UTC

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alt annet enn å skattelegge de rikeste eller ...eiendomsskatt! :neocat_scream_scared:

2024-11-01 17:58:08 UTC

So I will buy more soup.
To feed my family ofc :akko_wink:
https://media.tech.lgbt/media_attachments/files/113/408/989/253/116/321/original/2085c9462641468c.mp4

2024-10-30 11:32:15 UTC

Neurodivergent burnouts due to lack of motivation (read: dopamine) from engaging and/or meaningful work, is something I wish more employers would understand.

2024-09-28 10:56:02 UTC

Regardless of where you live, it do be like that.
https://media.tech.lgbt/media_attachments/files/113/214/809/658/890/484/original/b3fb0db66f388fd3.png

2024-09-27 12:24:48 UTC

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han er som en norsk Andrew Tate, full i hat, misinformasjon og kvinnefientlighet. Er tatt rett ut av den konservative "tale-boken".
Er vell nesten ett krav at man må være full i hat og ræva meninger for å tåle eksponeringen...
Begge er "cry bullies".

2024-09-23 06:11:32 UTC

Waking up on Monday all like :neocat_flop_sleep:
LOADING ... :ios_loading:

2024-09-13 16:10:25 UTC

If your neurodivergent friend seems distant or haven't spoken to you in a while, they're *most likely* occupied with their latest fixation atm and will shortly return with an info-dump about it :neurodiv: :neocat_heart:
#neurodivergence #adhd #autism

2024-09-10 06:36:23 UTC

:BoostOK: Hi Fedi, I'm now looking for new work. I have ~10 years of professional experience as a software developer, with 4 more in IT Systems Administration.
For the past 7 years, I've helped several startups and scale-up businesses successfully build and launch their products through the roles of Software Developer, DevOps, Tech/Team lead and Architect.
My primary competencies lie within systems designs, as I'm responsible for architecting, building and administering the backend software and systems for these companies. While I'm a 'polyglot' in terms of programming languages, the vast majority of my work has been BigData/ML/AI driven and written in Python and JavaScript/Node.js
I describe myself as a Software Architect, Python Developer & OpsGal.
I am open for hybrid office within the Randstad or remote. Full CV & Contact details available upon request.
#getfedihired #python #software #softwaredevelopment #jobsearch #boost

2024-09-07 10:41:03 UTC

IMVHO: If you're publishing a piece on someone coming out as trans, yet refuse to ever call them by their preferred gender and only call them "a trans person" your article is transphobic.
#trans #lgbtq

2024-08-26 08:27:17 UTC

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Han er en bauta, men ... det er vell ikke stort lengre vi har han dessverre :neocat_sad:

2024-08-26 08:19:34 UTC

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YEPP 100%, er tydelig ikke våken i disse morgentimene...
Er det bare Haakon som oppfører seg skikkelig der i huset for tiden?

2024-08-26 08:08:03 UTC

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er helt utrolig at de har latt Märtha (og sønn) oppføre seg slik som hun har gjort og likevell beholde prinsessetittelen.
Fra å misbruke prinsessetittelen ved å blande seg inn i sønnens voldsbruk, ringe ofre, hente ut øknomisk fortjeneste på alkohol, snakke med ånder, date en gal sjaman... slik oppførsel hadde ikke vært passende for folk flest, og er helt uholdbart for noen som skal i monarkiets kontekst fungere som en moralsk pekepin og rollemodel.
Det hadde vært bedre for alle, kanskje mest henne selv, at hun hadde sagt fra seg tittelen?

2024-08-08 19:05:44 UTC

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you would benefit of putting a little bit more effort in yourself before asking for more help (try first, ask second).
All the details you need have already been provided, and no terminal is required (though it's slightly quicker):<li>You can open any file explorer, navigate to <code>/etc/</code> and look/search for the file(s) (or something like it, there might not be an exact match) mentioned in the previous comment.</li><li>Open the file</li><li>Go look/search for <code>ControllerMode</code> </li><li>Change the line <ul><li>from: <code>ControllerMode = dual</code> </li><li>to: <code>ControllerMode = bredr</code></li></ul></li><li>Reboot</li>

2024-08-08 18:05:30 UTC

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you can try (if you haven't) to change the configured bluetooth mode. This fixed many headset+controller related issues for me.
There's usually a file:<li><code>/etc/bluetooth.conf</code></li><li><code>/etc/bluetooth/main.conf</code></li>
Which has the property:<code># Possible values: "dual", "bredr", "le" ControllerMode = bredr # Default is "dual" </code>

2024-08-04 06:02:56 UTC

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When I applied for gender-affirming care, the current estimated time until intake was 18 months.
That's 27 months ago, and I was recently called for the one and only update I've received since then. "Yeah the waiting list hasn't moved at all since you applied". Meaning I still have 18 months left, 27 months later.
This is the real & worsening state of trans related care in The Netherlands, the country that fucking came up with the usage of puberty blockers (GnRHs) in GAC.
The Dutch can do better, they just don't want to.

2024-08-04 05:58:49 UTC

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The way Dutch LGB people tends to treat both Trans rights & Pride really, really, really comes across as "we got our rights, now we don't care". If you push, then "you" are the problem and should "doen normaal". The hypocrazy and lack of self-awareness at times is mind-boggling.
What we're asking for, is to not be excluded from a literal guaranteed right under Dutch law. (GAC)
No more, no less.

2024-08-04 05:52:16 UTC

It's weird that we can have giant pride festivals with hundreds of thousands of attendee's here in The Netherlands, but mention that the average time to treatment has gone from ±6-12 months to 3-5 years and nobody's interested in listening.
Dutch law guarantee's specialized healthcare within 4 weeks, which is a joke in practise.
This is the downside of fixed budgets, you cannot, ever, react to the fluctuations in demand. You either have people wait unreasonably long, or you're wasting money, as you can't reasonably downsize or shift capacity either.

2023-08-15 20:05:27 UTC

:tiredcat2: yeah
#tired #cat
https://media.tech.lgbt/media_attachments/files/110/895/421/019/331/740/original/4025aa801b118231.mp4