Arden

He/him

c-anti-c (youth/adult)

Youthlib, prison abolition, sex/kink positive feminism.

I'm a poly pansexual nonexclusive MAP, also para4para exclusively. Sexuality and identity are big driving componenets for my activism. I'm the annoying guy with a special interest in mental health/self help/psychology/philosophy. Do you know about attachment theory?

Host of a mixed-origins system. BPD and many other brain things.

"They may be my enemies - that I can not help - but I will not be theirs."

Id things: https://apologeticoptimist.carrd.co/
System: https://ouros.carrd.co
Ask: https://ask.freak.university/@Apologist

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apologist_at_mapsupport.de@momostr.pink

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2024-09-16 14:34:06

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What we really need imo is social media that isn't reliant on the tolerance of others but the complete open acceptance of others. We shouldn't have to rely on the fediverse because it isn't for *us* - Its always possible we'll be driven away someday. We should have our own place, but that place needs to also be well made if people are going to stick around.
Its up to you what you do @ Sofia but I think you could help in building something like that someday, and it'd do a lot for the community.
But beyond that, agree with Gavin. We have to believe in ourselves and in the possibility of creating change in order for us to get there. If we accept defeat we're powerless, if we fight then we can get where we want to be. The future isn't set in stone, we're building it every moment.

2024-09-11 06:43:32

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Is this still active?

2024-08-28 02:48:14

I cant really do this... "discuss differing opinions and offer emotional support at the same time" thing.... Sometimes I can but I have to be in a really energetic state of being to do that. Otherwise I have to stick to the objective things. Its too much otherwise.

2024-08-26 05:48:17

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None share selfies without permission, lol

2024-08-26 05:48:17

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None share selfies without permission, lol

2024-08-26 05:43:58

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You didnt show me any screenshots referencing the group chat being dedicated to information On You except this. I do think he should clear things up though by giving context to the point of the GC and why someone wants to target you specifically, but if its someone after you specifically I doubt thats anti behaviour. Thats more revenge-behaviour. Which is what happens when a lot of people dislike you, people feel emboldened to hate you. And that doesnt make it right, that is concerning, I just dont attribute that to Varlus. Im in GC's with many people I dont agree with the actions of lol

2024-08-26 05:36:30

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Well then why did you drag my character into it!!!!!!!!!! I highly doubt you're being pedo hunted and if it turns out Im wrong you can show me dfjhj I hope Im not though since that would be much worse for you
Also dont send selfies after just a few hours, bad idea. You should guage how trustworthy someone is over a period of *months*

2024-08-26 05:31:55

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Literally cropped that wrong oops
https://mapsupport.de/system/media_attachments/files/113/026/682/903/559/759/original/11649904d9a5c8bd.png

2024-08-26 05:31:23

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Also he uses element he literally left my chat with him because I dont use it enough lmao
And that'd be kind of weird of me when half my friends are pro-cs who date or flirt with minors why would I want to be in a doxxing GC??
https://mapsupport.de/system/media_attachments/files/113/026/678/474/660/231/original/4eb8ecdedef52354.png

2024-08-26 05:29:32

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I think you're projecting. They're not pedohunters they *are* pedos. I do not believe Varlus is a pedohunter 😭 that seems like a wild bad faith claim to make honestly. And I get being bothered but thats just paranoia levels. If it turns out he doxes you I'll apologize but I genuinely doubt thats going to happen

2024-08-26 05:24:23

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"borderline anti" is a bit much, I never said I didn't care. I said he was wrong but it seems more like he said "sure Im interested" than a malicious "yes I want to get her"
And we've also been outted to people before, so I get it being stressful. But you havent been asking me how I feel, you've just been weirdly confrontational about me knowing someone and having a positive relationship.
You want to classify me as an anti to justify your feelings - And frankly that feels gross. Im most attracted to actual rapists and one of my headmates did a lot of stuff I didnt like, during which also together.

2024-08-26 05:16:19

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Well it didn't seem like he was looking for specific personal information? Maybe I'm reading it wrong, but you havent been doxxed and I think if thats what they wanted they would have tried something? And again, hes not responsible for others in his spaces.
You can believe what you want about me, its possible I'm just buying an act. I don't know him that well, but I also think he's been sincere in this and its all the young people being unstable and him not knowing how to dissuade that, and he admitted emotions played a role in that and he regrets it.
What do you want really? Has he not apologized directly? Because I assume he probably would have while sorting things out with you? I dont have secret insider knowledge of your conversations, Im hardly following anymore because I got busy with my girlfriend lol

2024-08-26 05:10:38

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Are you just assuming that he kept it though? I doubt he kept it and if he has I doubt he'll use it. Im not saying he didn't do wrong there, but I dont think he specifically wants to dox you. Not that I'd know since I'm not in that GC, would love to see the logs from it, but thats up to him. And I also was told by one minor that they're afraid of you, so.... He probably genuinely doesnt feel like he can prove one way or another what happened, lol

2024-08-26 05:06:05

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Well wasnt it the minor who leaked the selfie? I think its a bit much to assume Varlus was a mastermind in all this. Not saying its good if he didn't speak up about people trying to dox you, but hes not in control of all the minors he talks to?

2024-08-26 05:00:45

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Im friends with Varlus, yeah. Not close but I like *him* - I hope the misgendering isn't intentional. And Im honestly surprised you care so much because from that screenshot (and the ones in it) it wasn't with the intent to dox you, Varlus said he was curious. I believe that. Because it'd be really stupid for a pro-c MAP to dox another MAP who's probably in less compromising positions (since I think youre an adult with mostly adult friends right? arent you anti-c too?)
Anyway I believe Varlus about his intentions there, and its not morally wrong to be curious about other people.
To me this mostly seems like kinda silly drama, you weren't being doxxed but the minor involved *was* recently doxxed and you weren't very straight forward with someone whose likely to still be pretty distressed.

2024-08-26 04:52:36

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jffjjkf do you mean the minor? I only met them today because I was curious what was happening. If you mean Varlus I'd like to see evidence of trying to dox you jhjkf

2024-08-26 04:11:18

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I'd agree if you didn't say "never" and "no matter how long" If someone is talking to you on pedi for years and you dont go for it just because of that - I do think thats paranoia. And I say that having been that way myself. There will always be a chance someone will dox you someday but thats true no matter where you meet them, and Im firmly against "irl chance meetings" being the only way you can ever trust someone. I've met up with paraphiles/MAPs who we met online, and i've seen many others do it. You just need to be careful.

2024-08-26 02:35:53

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I WANT A RAPE.TOWN WHAT thats the best idea for an instance I've ever heard jhfdf

2024-08-23 01:54:21

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i like this one lol

2024-08-23 01:50:53

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so many letters though

2024-08-23 01:43:56

sometimes i wish discord *did* have a read checkmark function just so I could not reply to certain messages and let them know I saw it and am *choosing* to not respond.
I dont want that to actually be a feature, just a few rare instances it would be satisfying