Angela

Queer, #AuDHD, vaguely artsy, apprentice hairdresser, well-meaning but often clueless parent to an #autistic #PDA kid. 🌈♾️💇

American Pākehā in Aotearoa NZ. :tinoflag: :laserkiwi:

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2025-02-16 15:13:06 UTC

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No, Ange, go to sleep, you can binge your old college play lists later 😂

2025-02-16 15:06:44 UTC

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I chose #Curve "Faît Accompli" kind of randomly on IG for this post, but damn if it's not taking me back.
Toni freakin Halliday, the baddest bitch on stage. Debbie Smith on guitar. Dean Garcia, that bassline, are you fuckin kidding me. These people are legends.
https://youtu.be/Q9Plourz3Xs?si=eV_YWMiUc900-cVl

2025-02-16 14:53:00 UTC

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Going one better and ageing visibly as a woman on main, fuck yeah.
... Shit, did I take my progesterone?
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2025-02-15 20:40:36 UTC

The totalitarian shitshow In the US continues to have downstream effects, in fueling "culture wars" in NZ and emboldening our worst people. We've reached the stage of violent daytime assaults on queer people and families now.
Brian Tamaki and his Destiny Church goons will not stop unless they ARE stopped.
#uspol #nzpol

2025-02-09 05:45:06 UTC

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And, as long time followers may know, we're still trying to be Covid-cautious.
Flip has... You guessed it. Declared COVID to be over. 🙃 And today tried to fight me over wearing a 😷 to order wedges inside the local park cafe.
Flip also desperately wants more peers his age to befriend, but his ban on cars and buses limit our playdate capacities.
Te Whatu Ora does not understand our situation at all. They, and we, are at capacity.
So. Yeah. Tell me again how easy we beneficiaries have it?

2025-02-09 05:42:05 UTC

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Aaron likes to listen to podcasts, watch anime, code, game, or go for walks to relax.
These have all become actions that Flip interferes with on a regular basis. He will watch his dad's computer or phone for a bit before grabbing to take over whatever game he's playing or site he is browsing, rejecting suggestions that they switch to Flip's own tablet or laptop to play games, and will make up excuses to stop his dad going for walks or insisting he comes with.
We get very little alone time.

2025-02-09 05:38:24 UTC

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2) We're ALL neurodivergent in this house. We all have our own ways to self-regulate. Unfortunately our needs frequently come into conflict. I sing randomly and clean as I go. Or at least I did.
Flip hates. HATES. Other people singing. Mainly in his presence, but increasingly within earshot.
And he's started getting upset and stopping me from cleaning. Even coming in from another room if he hears me, to stop me. 🙃
So I have to BE QUIET, in my own house, most of the damned day.

2025-02-09 05:36:26 UTC

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I also haven't mentioned lately, but I think I should paint a fuller picture.
None of the following is said to blame or shame my kid, or be all "LOOK WHAT A NIGHTMARE MY LIFE IS". It just is. It's hard, and I can say that it is hard.
1) Flip is still mad about how I handled buying his new bed back in Sept, so still insists on sleeping in OUR bed. With me there for comfort. Aaron stays in Flip's bed because the kid kicks in his sleep, often nailing him with a heelstrike to the huevos 🥚🥚

2025-02-09 04:46:06 UTC

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Yes, we'd hire more support care if we could, but
1) he's resistant to new carers, but is usually OK when we invite people over as friends.
2) our budget, incl allowance from Manawanui, is maxed out.
I know I'm not selling us very well atm, but really we're fun most of the time! It's just when we all go a long time without socialising or getting regular breaks, we all go a bit mad.

2025-02-09 04:42:38 UTC

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I'm still here because husband is wearing down. Kid is eating wedges. Pray we can go home soon.
Please no suggestions unless you have followed me for a lonnng time, and can actually suggest something you know we haven't tried yet.
Or better yet, if you are chill and local, come be part of our village? This kid needs more co-regulation than his parents alone can give. I can barter for haircuts, if needed.

2025-02-09 04:41:02 UTC

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There was almost a reprieve when his dad took him for a walk, then they proceeded to argue at the gate for 10 minutes over the kid taking his scooter 🛴 (which he always uses to race ahead of his parents or carer recklessly) until I came out to mediate.
Then they left, I rested, drank my caffeine for the day, then began to tidy the lounge to vacuum the littered carpet, when my phone rang. Kid was freaking out at the park and I had to walk down to help.

2025-02-09 04:39:40 UTC

Today was just riddled with conflict despite our best efforts.
I know #PDA #autistic profiles are complex, but today the kid picked a fight because *checks notes* he overheard me saying to his dad that I ordered myself new headphones.
And then again when... I mentioned that the garden needs a good watering and fertiliser.
"No! Cancel the order!"
"No! Do NOT water the garden!"
Just... WTF? 🤷‍♂️

2025-02-08 00:48:57 UTC

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if you have any usable excess, hit us up! Our apples aren't ready yet but will keep you posted

2025-01-31 02:16:22 UTC

"Send the Mexicans home!"
A statement uttered in #NZ Parliament, by a wretched old white creep who's just been waiting for his chance. 🙄
American-made "culture wars" bullshit continues to flow downstream like effluent to embolden the worst kind of people here in Aotearoa New Zealand 💩
MP Shane Jones should resign.
#nzpol

2025-01-30 07:58:35 UTC

Kid slipped and fell hard in the kitchen, hurt himself and went crying to bed. 20 min later he's still wailing that he'll "never eat dinner again", refusing to let his dad comfort him while I try to scrub the inexplicably slippery floor, wtf happened...
Tired now and finishing my salad down here 🤷‍♂️ 🥗
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2025-01-30 00:56:46 UTC

I dunno who needs to hear this, but maybe log off to hydrate and stare into the middle distance for a bit.

2025-01-27 23:40:27 UTC

Kid wanted to make duck shoes, so we made duck shoes.
That's it, that's the post.
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2025-01-26 04:44:32 UTC

It's. Raining.
WHOMST IS SETTING OFF FIREWORKS?!

2025-01-25 12:59:34 UTC

Oof.
Just... Read something that was NOT what I needed to read before attempting to sleep.
Wow. What a gut punch.
Have to put these feelings somewhere where I can deal with them when I have more time. 🙁

2025-01-22 19:46:34 UTC

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can you name specifics, though?

2025-01-20 20:59:05 UTC

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Bring this energy back, tbh ⚡
https://youtu.be/9bZkp7q19f0?si=4tlrlsCvnE7Tx-IB

2025-01-20 20:50:53 UTC

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Feel free to reply to this with your favorite silly musical interludes.
Intentional parody, earnest cheesiness, incessant earworm, whatever, let's just have fun.

2025-01-20 20:45:59 UTC

Help me see the bright side, whānau? I'm struggling.
#Aotearoa #NewZealand remains enviable by many world metrics, but the first term of NACTFirst was awful for a lot of folks here.
At least... We got the ban on greyhound racing? What else, though?
Did anything actually good happen for the environment? For tangata whenua? For the 🌈 community?
Because it felt like nothing but assaults on those fronts.
I'll take regional NZ news, even, if the national news is lacking.

2025-01-20 19:08:01 UTC

No thoughts, head empty, just this
https://youtu.be/S-OgkNgxm3k?si=rOyS6fsJuBDCsLV-

2025-01-20 03:25:37 UTC

Two year anniversary of moving from Wellington to Ōtautahi.
Honestly feeling rn like it was a giant mistake. 😔

2024-12-18 00:34:57 UTC

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MC takes 50K from her insider trading, and hesitates for a moment before dividing it into custodial accounts for her underage daughters. Eeeeeegh.
What happens to kids whose parents use them for fraud and shit? Apart from the obvious "parent goes to jail". Are they tainted financially?

2024-12-02 01:40:14 UTC

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seriously. So embarrassing, the both of them. They might have been insightful once upon a time, but fame in their field seems to have given them both a terminal case of head-up-own-arse.

2024-12-01 21:43:18 UTC

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that's fascinating. Why doesn't it get swallowed up by the clay though? Can you share a close up photo of your driveway? I'm curious

2024-12-01 00:37:27 UTC

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I mean!
Hugh Jackman and Sutton Foster as Zed and Consuella! Let's fuckin go
It is criminal and rampantly biphobic that I don't have the money or influence to actually make this happen lol
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2024-11-30 19:42:25 UTC

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I stand by this, even in the unforgiving light of dawn

2024-11-30 11:26:52 UTC

You know what would make things more bearable?
Zardoz: The Musical.

2024-11-29 02:29:05 UTC

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I've heard this, have wanted to own chickens again partly for this reason (or hire someone's for a weekend weed-feed, lol)

2024-11-29 02:08:15 UTC

Tunanui Tahi was surprisingly complicated for a mostly tubular critter, so of course I decided to make Tunanui Rua... Weighted! 😂
Also tried a different velour yarn, a smaller gauge, with two colours wound together. Pretty effect, but I think I'll stick with the thicker one. It works up quicker.
#amigurumi
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2024-11-26 04:53:41 UTC

In other news, we use a mix of loose leaf and bagged tea, the latter mostly Bell or Dilmah. I was just tossing the used teabags into the compost, but I'm gonna try and remember to cut them open and empty only the leaves into compost.
Is there plastic in your tea bag? - Consumer NZ
https://www.consumer.org.nz/articles/plastic-in-tea-bags#article-what-manufacturers-use-to-seal-their-tea-bags

2024-11-25 21:10:36 UTC

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imagine the whole brass section of a full orchestra going off

2024-11-25 20:38:10 UTC

Mōrena, brain is still booting online, I just said "Netflix" instead of "Weetbix", and I'm seriously considering the musical viability of a skåpera (ska opera) 😂

2024-11-24 02:35:54 UTC

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ahh, much better job with the netting than I've ever done

2024-11-23 03:56:01 UTC

And now Flip has decided he doesn't want to wear a mask at the shop.
Siiiigh.

2024-11-21 08:05:11 UTC

So, one of my ringtone sounds on my Samsung Galaxy is "80s Phone". My curious 7yo asked about it, and it led to perusing videos of 80s and 90s #telephony on YT.
Then this old news clip came up. Brace yourself for the anchorwoman's VO, it's straight out of a Verhoeven film 😂
https://youtu.be/6Qp6R7hOW7U?si=4f7yHkMqxQ-3MRUe

2024-11-20 21:46:45 UTC

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I was all gung ho to get a cast iron pan to replace my mid size non-stick skillet, but of course now I'm considering carbon steel, lol, it's taking ages lol

2024-11-20 04:30:18 UTC

My trenchant contribution to #nzpol discourse
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2024-11-19 22:32:12 UTC

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omg, the dream

2024-11-19 22:07:54 UTC

In other news, can someone point me to the precise brush or whatever tool one needs to apply polyurethane varnish smoothly to a hardwood floor, ideally on Bunnings or Mitre 10's website?
The tin says "apply with brush or roller". The first coat, I tried a standard bristle brush: it left streaks. The second coat, I used a roller: it left tiny bubbles, now pockmarks.
Halp? #homeimprovement #DIY
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2024-11-19 21:37:15 UTC

Hey folks, today is #InternationalMensDay.
I believe patriarchy and gender norms are prisons, even for the men privileged enough (aka "manly" enough) to be their enforcers.
It destroys your soul to exist in a state of competition and domination over other human beings. It annihilates compassion for your self and others.
We all must learn and amplify better ways to be, to decolonise and embrace the fullness of our humanity, to shed shame and know true joy and fulfillment.

2024-11-16 06:20:19 UTC

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check rest of the thread 🙃

2024-10-19 00:39:17 UTC

@npub1y54…za3k hey, I'm trying to scatter more herb seeds that will self sow around. I've checked every online resource, seems that dill and coriander are fine to plant near roses, potatoes, beans, and Rubus bushes, but do you know of any contraindications?
Also, the freakin aphids are back on the roses, ugh. Is Yates Conqueror Oil or EcoNeem enough, if I just stay on top of spraying every 3 days?

2024-10-13 23:10:48 UTC

Not even noon, and I'm at the end of my rope.
#NZ mental health, child psych people, anyone, please tell me someone in this country is fit to diagnose the #PDA #autistic profile, and make an argument that it qualifies for ORS.
Because I cannot go on like this. We cannot. We are all frustrated and burnt out.

2024-09-15 06:32:09 UTC

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noted, keeping the elder for the firebowl, using the camellia and willow for fence

2024-09-13 15:58:16 UTC

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New Zealand has slid comfortably from 2.5 years of "Team of 5 Million" into full ableist denial, with an average (official) COVID death rate of 20-30/week. So gonna have to watch the even smaller nations to see when they notice how many have died or contracted LC

2024-09-11 06:56:41 UTC

Dinner running late again, because I've had to spend most of the evening supporting Flip through meltdown. Oof.

2024-09-07 22:16:37 UTC

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oh wow, TIL. Yeah, they look ideal. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinampa

2024-09-07 21:28:11 UTC

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It occurred to me that Flip added the detail that Alejandro Pato is a thousand years old AFTER we had established he was born---sorry, hatched---in #Mexico City.
Which actually makes him older than the founding of #Tenochtitlan. So, being a duck, his hatchplace must be Lake Texcoco.
And also, his hatchname is in duck language, but possibly he has another in #Nahuatl, depending on when he began interacting with humans.

2024-08-25 09:10:46 UTC

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This revelation would suck less, if a bunch of our old stuff hadn't still been there.
My mom had been talking about wanting to go back to get things for the past few years. There's... No way any of it was properly taken and put in storage.
Damn.

2024-08-25 07:34:57 UTC

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Whaaaat? So many craft folks would love some local wool

2024-08-25 06:54:13 UTC

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This is on top of... Everything else going on with my parents. *sigh*
I... Just... Really don't have spoons for it.

2024-08-25 06:40:13 UTC

Wow. OK.
So my childhood home was foreclosed on. Years ago.
My dad knew. Didn't tell me, or Mom. My brother?
Who knows? We are a strange semi-detached family.

2024-08-24 03:17:03 UTC

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Fluffy Bake Shop! Managed to finally go, but it was hella crowded and nearly ran out of donuts before I ordered. Gotta go first thing on weekends! 😱

2024-08-23 21:29:07 UTC

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too far! 😩 I know it doesn't seem far to sane people, but bad hay-fever and other general malaise makes me feel almost hungover

2024-08-23 21:08:23 UTC

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that'd be odd, because I take zinc supplements somewhat regularly

2024-08-23 20:46:30 UTC

Uuugh. Hay-fever and general weariness making my head feel like garbage.
I'm fantasising about fresh donuts and real coffee, but IDK if I feel up to making the trek.

2024-08-22 22:00:21 UTC

Doctor's appointment in 1.25 hr.
Making the standard middle-aged list of everything I should mention to have checked so I get my money's worth.

2024-08-19 23:07:18 UTC

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Just heard from Leo. I'm so sorry. 💜💜💜

2024-08-10 22:15:32 UTC

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This morning, Flip was at the lounge window, asking Alejandro Pato if he has any recipes, and if he does "please put them in the mail box".
Anyone local who knows any simple Central or South American recipes can delight a young boy by leaving them in our mailbox.
Also acceptable are North African or Indian recipes. Alejandro Pato is a world traveller. 🦆 🌍