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I am a high masking, late diagnosed autistic person with #ADHD who usually has low support needs.

My special interest is programming, which is also my career. I am a bi cisgender man who is married to a wonderful, beautiful, bi cisgender woman who is also #AuDHD. We are parents to some amazing humans, and many many amazing animals.

- #ActuallyAutistic
- Trans rights are human rights
- Black lives matter
- No one has ever earned a billion dollars

Pronouns: he/him
Home: https://minego.net/

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2026-07-09 00:05:02 UTC

"Paint me like one of your French poodles"
https://cdn.masto.host/pdxsocial/media_attachments/files/116/887/093/338/223/179/original/f0c6c924fa050f12.jpg

2026-07-05 17:38:10 UTC

Oh my fucking god, fucking tech asshole companies fucking doing AB testing on their users is fucking annoying!
Changing the fucking behavior of every fucking app every fucking time I use it is not giving you any useful information. It is just pissing people off!
Stop this fucking bullshit! Leave things the fuck alone! I don't give a fuck if it is ideal. Consistency fucking matters!

2026-06-01 18:06:13 UTC

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Is it possible to get the deport billionaires shirt as a tank top?

2026-06-01 04:50:48 UTC

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@npub17r2…e0pa @npub1d93…cnl2 I feel like some of the ways I have coped, like masking, gets harder and harder as I get older.
It feels worse each time I do it. I can't do it like I did 20 years ago...

2026-06-01 01:43:22 UTC

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@npub17r2…e0pa @npub1d93…cnl2 I remember someone (don't remember who...) saying you don't recover from burnout, because burnout happens when you are doing more than you can sustain. You have to find a way to reduce stress, effort, pushing too hard, masking too hard, trying too hard. You can't go back to running at 120%.

2026-05-31 17:59:31 UTC

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@npub1pce…geep @npub1cvn…evqa Unfortunately, I can relate.
I absolutely hate burnout. I feel like I never fully recovered from the last burnout I went through.

2026-05-23 19:47:05 UTC

Those of you who have heavily tattooed limbs, like me (I have a full sleeve on both arms, legs are still a work in progress):
Do you shave said limbs to make your tattoos easier to see?

2026-05-22 19:08:34 UTC

I miss liking computers.

2026-05-22 18:44:10 UTC

RE: https://infosec.exchange/@SwiftOnSecurity/116619500474743067
Oooh, memories. I think I still have that in a box somewhere in the basement, unless I managed to lose it in the last move.
#note1cmh…jexv

2026-05-02 20:56:20 UTC

My employer, like so many others, has been forcing the use of hallucination machines. During a meeting recently we were talking about using it, and I referred to it as "it".
Obviously, it is proper English to do so. But, one coworker was shocked by this and asked me why I used that word. I calmly explained that it is a large very flawed statistical model and nothing more, so "it" is the appropriate word.
I think that blew their mind. Their reaction was just silence.
I miss actual intelligence

2026-04-29 16:14:53 UTC

I know that a lot of programmers are having a hard time finding work, and it is a shitty time to ask, but I just heard a rather concerning rumor... So...
If any of you happen to know of an opening for a programmer with a lot of experience with C, golang, and many other languages, with a lot of knowledge about cryptography and Internet standards, that pays well and is either in Portland or happy with remote work...
#GetFediHired

2026-03-04 21:01:58 UTC

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I am #ActuallyAutistic, and I don't see it that way at all. Being weird isn't about performing, or using my energy budget. Being weird is about unmasking, and being your real self without worry of being judged. Being weird is about making any behaviour that isn't harmful to others be accepted, so that any stim, or accommodation is accepted.
Because if everyone is weird, then no one is.
@npub1pce…geep

2026-03-04 20:32:01 UTC

Some of you aren't being weird enough. I'm gonna need you to up your game.

2026-02-28 05:31:02 UTC

If you ever want to know if a billionaire is a decent person or not, just remember that if they were a decent person, they wouldn't stay a billionaire for long.

2026-01-10 02:32:24 UTC

I just saw a news report, where they played a video of the ICE goon murdering a person, but the bleeped out the audio.
They aren't comfortable letting us hear someone say "fuck" but they are very happy to show us a fucking murder.
Fuck them.

2025-11-20 14:20:38 UTC

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The left hand likes to watch

2025-11-13 14:47:52 UTC

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@npub1wsm…3z93 Sorry, didn't mean to make you feel the need to be defensive!
They are amazing animals! They are extremely intelligent, and with a lot of time and effort you can develop a very close and strong relationship with them.
But, they are wild animals. They haven't been bred to be pets for thousands of years like dogs and cats have been.
Smaller parrots are indeed much easier, and some species are much more likely to bond with a single person, which is very problematic.

2025-11-13 14:11:13 UTC

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@npub1gdv…h69a Please be careful before getting a parrot.
I've had many, and absolutely love them... But they are a very difficult pet to properly care for. Especially the bigger ones.
I fostered cockatoos for a rescue a few years ago, and ended up adopting an umbrella cockatoo. He was amazing and I fucking love him, but after a few years I returned him to the rescue and they found him another home. He was fine with me, but he was violent with my wife and kids.
Parrots aren't good pets.

2025-10-10 23:42:34 UTC

My wife and I decided we should visit the tattoo shop down the street from our house, and well...
https://cdn.masto.host/pdxsocial/media_attachments/files/115/352/518/838/902/057/original/205240547d96985d.jpg

2025-08-06 02:54:50 UTC

I just had a thought, and I don't want to look this up, because I don't want to live in a world where it isn't true.
So, I'm choosing to believe that somewhere in Europe there is a small band playing every night in any shitty club they can, just covering songs by Trent Reznor, going by the name 22.86cm nails.

2025-07-31 02:12:59 UTC

Queso was a baby once
https://cdn.masto.host/pdxsocial/media_attachments/files/114/945/423/983/664/174/original/bca12653464b2db1.jpg

2025-06-22 01:46:55 UTC

You don't have to prefix things with "doom" anymore, that's just the default now. You can just say scrolling.

2025-06-19 17:30:56 UTC

I have a very important question... How do you take off your pants?
Please boost, for very important sciencing.

2025-05-30 01:41:55 UTC

I find it fucking hilarious that they are denying using a.i. to write this bullshit health report.
So, you wrote this yourselves? You think that's less embarrassing?!?

2025-05-26 14:09:46 UTC

The other day, I was wearing a tshirt that said "fuck transphobia" (it still says that, but the point is it said it the other day) while in the checkout line at a grocery store.
The woman working the register appeared to be having a bad day, but was trying to be cheerful.
When I got to the front, she saw my shirt and she smiled and her eyes lit up. It looked like she was holding back tears.
A lot of people are scared right now, and need to know we are on their side.
I'm on your side.

2025-05-18 17:46:48 UTC

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@npub148y…cdum I have heard so many people say they didn't vote for Harris because they refused to support a candidate that supported the genocide.
But, they did anyway. They supported Trump. They may not have voted for Trump, but not voting for Harris did nearly as much harm.
The worst part is that they know this. Anyone who claims otherwise is fucking lying. They are lying to us, and to themselves, and the latter makes it damned fucking hard to talk any sense into them.

2025-05-11 19:26:35 UTC

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Always take the side path first, or you'll miss all the secret items.

2025-05-08 12:44:43 UTC

Remember when we didn't have ai and fascists?
Those were good times.

2025-03-11 01:00:33 UTC

My wife just got home from her first day at her new job as a nurse here in Portland. She said someone sat her down in a closed office and told her "Just so you're aware, Portland is a sanctuary city, and we are a sanctuary hospital. We help everyone, and believe in..."
And she interrupted and said "That's exactly why we moved here!"
I'm so happy for her! Her employer sounds amazing!!!

2025-02-22 23:38:56 UTC

No spoons left, only guillotines.

2025-02-14 15:17:04 UTC

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This is absolute bullshit. If you continue replying with fascist propaganda like this, I'll be blocking. I have no time for this kind of bullshit.
@npub1p38…jwc8

2025-02-14 00:50:54 UTC

We have more than enough resources for everyone. We could easily feed the entire fucking world, and provide medical care, and housing.
But we choose not to, because a few want more than their fair share.
It is immoral to continue like this.

2025-02-11 20:26:43 UTC

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I'm sorry that reminds you of him. I am glad you're here and hope we can avoid triggering your PTSD in the future.
@npub1xeq…e8nv @npub1u0h…g7aj @npub16tm…3hl7

2025-02-09 23:19:37 UTC

I'm still pissed as fuck about the NFL removing "end racism" from the end zones to make their orange feurer happy.

2025-02-05 16:47:25 UTC

Remember kiddos, no one has ever earned a billion dollars. No one deserves a billion dollars.
No one. Ever.

2025-02-05 16:47:12 UTC

Be the hermit you don't want to see in the world.