That's the thing. I'm pissed off because I think some of her behavior really hurts people, but also...I think she is isolating herself & the more we try to ignore it & just try not to trigger her insecurities, the more isolated she is going to get.
It feels "nicer" to be non-confrontational & just keep saying "oh, that's just how she is" & just attempt to adjust, but it's not.