They should, (although to be clear, I don't think you should reuse a Bitcoin public key) but I agree with you. BOLT 12 requests are difficult to integrate into Nostr apparently for some reason. I defer to Rusty Russell (nprofile…2d2l) as to why.
I would have to mull over whether the prescription of doing everything to mitigate the extreme case without a catalyst is generally advisable though. I personally live in a mix of both because the stress of covering every base is not worth it. I do my best and move on. I get pwnd, so be it.
