Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach

I support fellow #ActuallyAutistic and #AuDHD humans to undo the effects of living in damaging systems, NT-"shoulds," burnout, and anxiety, to make your own autism-positive life. http://www.autismchrysalis.com 

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#neurodivergent #neurodiversity #EDS, #Disabled, #AutisticBurnout, #StarTrek, she/her, happy

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2026-01-20 14:26:01 UTC

If you are not mean or insulting or hurtful to them, you are not responsible for them being mean to you.
They may be hurtful, but it’s not because of you. It’s because of whatever’s going on inside of them.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity

2026-01-11 19:47:03 UTC

What to Expect in the Later Identified Autism Journey
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TS4ntEz_Ids
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity
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2025-12-20 14:17:01 UTC

What if a meltdown wasn't a "bad" thing, but a signal that you're having trouble coping with something? Or that you need something you're not getting?
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #BurnoutRecovery #Sensory #Interoception

2025-12-19 20:51:03 UTC

Is it rude if an Autistic (adult or child) spends holiday gatherings in their room, or opt out, instead of with the family?
https://youtu.be/L6NxYEI-M3A?si=l6m8qhhS01BWY_TG
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance #Understanding
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2025-12-09 19:42:04 UTC

Alternative Answers to: "How Was Your Day?"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=buzv0NdYVSo
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
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2025-12-07 14:12:01 UTC

Who decided that screaming when you get burned on a hot stove is an acceptable reaction, but walking out of the room when people are talking over each other is an unacceptable reaction?
Whatever hurts your senses genuinely hurts, whether or not it bothers anyone else. And you are allowed to feel what you feel, and to take care of yourself.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity

2025-11-28 17:54:20 UTC

When you hate being perceived, and are #Autistic, here’s what might be going on:
https://youtube.com/watch?v=k6Ao5sW4oQo&si=K6qAT_ci78EvZLh8
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

2025-10-28 16:16:08 UTC

Why Finding Your Autistic Community Didn't Fix Your Loneliness (The Truth No One Talks About)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jhbpj7UiZ8
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND

2025-09-12 14:22:02 UTC

When I was growing up, I was misunderstood a lot. And because my logic seemed so reasonable to me, I couldn’t understand why anyone wouldn’t get on board with it.
So I generally assumed that if they didn’t agree, it was my fault for not explaining myself well enough.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity

2025-01-25 14:41:01 UTC

What does the world need to learn from you that you know precisely because of the things that you’ve been through?
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

2025-01-20 14:42:00 UTC

Although life is complicated and hard for everyone, as Autistics, we’ve got this extra layer of difficulty because the way the world works is not currently adapted for how we work.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #AutismAcceptance #Understanding

2025-01-07 15:56:00 UTC

The domestic labor that you contribute to a household saves the equivalent cash that it would take to replace that work.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

2024-11-25 14:54:01 UTC

Our autistic sensory experiences are just different from a lot of people’s. And when we get messages that it’s not okay to be different, we try to ignore that instead of actually meeting our needs.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Sensory

2024-11-05 14:48:00 UTC

You’re not alone. You’re not the only one who feels that. You’re not the only one who’s weird in that particular way.
(And I use weird as like a reclaimed word; I love weird. I love being weird.)
#NeuroDivergent #Neurodiversity #Neurodiverse #ND #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

2024-11-01 14:23:00 UTC

Some places and people might never be safe in this current version of our world.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

2024-09-28 14:24:00 UTC

Sometimes we’re so used to not be accepted, or that acceptance being conditional, or being withdrawn later, that even genuine support isn’t believed.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #ND #NeuroDivergent

2024-08-25 19:27:03 UTC

Aiming for A "Good Day" Is Too Much Pressure
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXFpRswS0wY
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD
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2024-08-24 13:09:01 UTC

Masking prevents us from really knowing ourselves, from being known. And therefore from ever feeling like we’re actually accepted for who we really are, because we’re not showing people who we really are.
#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD

2024-08-21 14:47:00 UTC

When you know that something bothers you, but you’re trying to figure out more about it, ask yourself, “what is it about it that I don’t like?”
Is it the fluorescent lights that you don’t like at the grocery store? Is it the chewing sounds at the restaurant? Is it the feel of buttons on this particular piece of clothing?
#ActuallyAutistic #BurnoutRecovery #Sensory #Interoception

2024-08-07 14:21:01 UTC

When we get messages of "you’re high maintenance", "you’re too much work", "it’s not okay to have your needs". That can really hurt, first of all, but it can also teach us that it’s not okay to be us.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

2024-08-04 13:29:00 UTC

A lot of times growing up in our society, we’ve gotten the message that it’s not okay to feel what you feel. What I really, really want to drive home is that it is okay to feel what you feel.
#ActuallyAutistic #AutismAcceptance #AuDHD