[..] Try observing how they're attacking, based on what, how many lies/deception, etc. After several years I found what helped me is some silly memes with proverbs on sensible bits of wisdom that help establish what normal behavior is supposed to be. The crap I had to deal with, at least, became both large-scale and very manipulative.
I would say, do write about it. It helps others to keep track. (Parts that don't expose you, make you vulnerable. The events.)