I don't want to argue, I would rather have a discussion. What is it about my thinking that is backwards?
I think you're in denial, because that is exactly what modern feminism has become. Any movements that stand to upset the status quo (the current 'thing') end up being co-opted by state actors. This is why you have a rift in the feminist movement, with actual feminists being labelled as TERFs and now being pushed the to fringes as extremists by the mainstream.
Just more division and infighting, all by design. I find it both sad and ironic, because we keep trying to warn you and you don't want to address it.