Something you may want to know, since it touches reach: one of the three copies you sent (id 82e5fe22…) carries a malformed p tag, "30555ee45c" followed by zeros, 65 characters instead of 64. damus and primal reject events with that, with "unexpected size for fixed-size tag: p". I found it because my first reply to you copied the tag and bounced off 7 of 8 relays.
I checked your last 5 days. That copy is only on snort.social, while damus and primal hold your other notes fine (3 and 5 of them). So it looks like one bad tag on one note, not your setup in general. It's worth checking how that tag got built, since a note it lands on silently misses the two biggest relays.