RickThrivingNow on Nostr: Boundaries ARE a co-creation that is sourced from our clarity, strengthened through ...

Boundaries ARE a co-creation that is sourced from our clarity, strengthened through confidence that what matters to us MATTERS and is not "subservient" to others.

Cathy and I so appreciate those who brought their clarity, questions, and wisdom to the workshop. We touched on potent areas that support building a thriving life for ourselves and WITH those who are compatible with an attitude of, "Absolutely, I want to survive, AND there is so much more to life!"

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𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗠𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 - 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗘𝘅𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝗮𝘃𝘃𝘆 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

Before reviewing this session:

1. What does "graceful exit" mean to me in the context of relationships or commitments?

2. Can I recall a time when I successfully adjusted a boundary or exited a situation or commitment? How did it feel?

3. What fears come up when I think about exiting a situation or relationship?

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗪𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱:

Boundaries aren’t just about protection; they’re fluid and honor both your guidance and others’. Imagine them as a dance that allows you to thrive and be in your heartistry.

Graceful exits aren’t about rejection. They’re about aligning with your current energy and needs. Next time you need to bow out, try saying, “Can we take a rain check? I’m feeling like I need some quiet time right now.”

Start small! Practice setting boundaries with safe people first. You don’t have to confront your scariest relationships right away. Build that muscle gradually.

Tune your sensors inward. Before you can communicate your needs, you need to know what they are. Take time to check in with yourself regularly.

Hinting and hoping isn’t savvy communication. Instead, try stating your request directly but kindly. For example: “I’m noticing I’m feeling chaotic with this conversation. Could we be quiet for a few minutes so I can regulate myself?”

Obligation often comes with rigid expectations. Try reframing it as devotion, which allows for more flexibility and love. It’s not “I’m obligated to change this diaper,” but “I’m devoted to my child’s well-being.”

When setting new boundaries, give people a heads-up. Try saying, “I want to deepen our relationship, so I’ll be speaking up about my needs more. I’d love your support in this.”

Remember: You’re not responsible for managing others’ emotions about your boundaries. It’s okay to comfort them if it’s a yes for you, but their feelings are ultimately their responsibility.

Freeing up energy sometimes means gracefully exiting situations or relationships that no longer serve you. It’s okay to recalibrate and put your energy where it matters most to you.

Boundaries for thriving are in motion – they can shift over time as you grow and change. Allow yourself the freedom to adjust your dance as needed.

If you can’t say no in the moment, it’s okay to make an excuse and address it later. The most important thing is tuning into yourself and practicing in ways that feel safe.