Contra on Nostr: Young men build identity around themselves because no one told them there was a ...

Young men build identity around themselves because no one told them there was a better architecture. You optimize for your own comfort. Your own status. Your own reflection. And it works just well enough to keep you locked in.

Then something breaks the loop. A woman who deserves more than your highlight reel. A child who doesn’t care about your resume. A God who isn’t impressed by your personal brand.

You start reordering. Not because someone guilt tripped you into it. Because the old arrangement stopped producing anything worth having.
God first. Then her. Then them. Then you.

And the strange thing is you don’t disappear in that order. You finally show up. The joy isn’t a reward for good behavior. It’s the natural output of a correctly ordered life. Selflessness isn’t loss.

Every man figures this out or he doesn’t. No one can argue you into it. The receipts are in the results.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​