I tried to join such a retreatish community.
Thing is, I have depression and anxiety and stuffs.
When I informed these people that I was feeling pretty isolated and starting to struggle, here's two of the responses I got:
"Well whaddaya expect ME to do about it?"
And,
"If you need more human contact you're in the wrong place."
........Annnd this is why I'm a peer support specialist now, because FUCK THAT look guys anyone who's trying to build a healthy intentional community in the shadow of planetwrecking fascism had BETTER KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH GARDEN VARIETY SOCIAL ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION just like you'd better know how to wash dishes and grow a damn vegetable because otherwise what the fuck are we even doing??? Shit, I don't even have substance addiction issues or bipolar or schizophrenia or an anger problem-- if your community can't even handle dealing with somebody like ME, you've got no shot against this shitstorm.
Violet Madder
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