Your own relay won't fix this issue, some client you are using has a bug that broadcasted an empty follow and relay list
(Not wisp, we have a foot gun check for this)
I wish I could give you a better answer, the only solution is using a remote signer on all clients so you actually have to approve each event, which is also shit UX
CheCK plebsvszombies (nprofile…8zqj) I tHthink they have a restore function
