So here’s what happens, a kid is born and before they learn to speak they get smacked around for shitting and for making noise, for not being on the schedule, and this is a traumatic environment, but the child is told, and must believe, This is Actually Good.
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This is what I call Antisocialization, the child is hurt and then pressured to believe it’s Good and cannot respond to the people hurting them, cannot fight and hate the Good People hurting them - and so the hate, the defensive need to fight, the psychological need to feel any power turns outward, where the family and the group will allow it to go, to the Other.
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That is Antisocialization theory in narrative, psychological terms, but there is more, it’s almost certainly not only psychology but an epigenetic change, this all happens during development, it’s the stuff that you cannot be talked out of because it wasn’t only talk that got you there.
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I left out evolution and neurotype still: it grows over generations and not everyone has the antisocialization response.
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Switching gears to the personal:
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I was amazed that when my family of marriage fell apart, the counsellors showed no interest in patching it up, they were the same or worse than your friends, helping us all away from each other, we will all be healthier if we stop wanting and needing each other and just hate them and get on with our lives, this is a solution for antisocial people, Geezuz.
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