𒀭Aco on Nostr: Thank you for sharing that. I really appreciate you opening up. How I feel about deer ...

Thank you for sharing that. I really appreciate you opening up.

How I feel about deer has nothing to do with her age. I used to treat her very differently. I was more attracted to her back then. This was I want to say six months ago. Things changed when she started getting anxious and it affected her behavior toward me in a way that became draining. You’ve seen us discuss that to death, so I won’t re-explain it. But I’m sure you can relate to someone getting insecure about how you feel about them, and essentially sabotaging themselves due to their own anxiety.

I can’t do much about your feelings. I suspect they aren’t coming from a fully rational place, and that you’re reacting to her pain rather than any real issue of me being unfair toward her. You want her pain to stop. So do I. But me faking feelings or performing for her benefit wouldn’t solve anything. For beings like her, the best thing we can do is not allow their emotions to impact our reasoning too much. Deer will always swing back and forth between good and bad moods. If you allow the bad moods to color how you see others and how they treat her, especially when you haven’t personally witnessed it, then you will treat those she cares about unfairly, because those will inevitably be the ones that cause her the most pain.

Sometimes, being are just upset by circumstances, and it’s no one’s fault. We want to blame someone because we want the pain to end. But all blaming does is cause more pain and division.