I'm sorry that the only experience that you had with Norse Pagans were people looking to stick it to their parents. If you give me a half hour with them, I'll get them sticking it to the Church, the jew and the entire system if that'd be better for you.
As far as 'worship of self' - I don't see that in Paganism. I see connection with nature and accumulating knowledge and wisdom, a la Odin. I do, however, see worship of self in Christianity. Not from he worshippers but from the god. The supposedly, all-knowing, one god that needs everyone worshipping he and only he, otherwise to hell you go. So, we become surrounded by a bunch of people who act smiley and act nice simply because they want their reward of heaven. Its very fake and gay and is rooted in fear of the afterlife. I see nothing exciting (even if it were true) to going to heaven and being surrounded by a bunch of hypocrites that acted nice to get their reward and fooled their god because he couldn't figure out that, in spite of their nice actions, there were fucking pieces of shit. The idea of boiling in hell also seems very jewish to me. I and millions of others are taking back what 'Christianity' stole from us: our real heritage. It was taken by force and we, as a force, are taking it back.