The framework of linking sexual abuse directly to masculinity, or testosterone, or penises (three different things, of course) sets up a false choice between self-loathing, or totally ignoring the problem of sexual abuse.
Self-loathing can be a step towards compassion, which is the way out, but I've looked at incel writings a few times, and they wallow in self-loathing, without questioning sexism or learning compassion.
FoolishOwl
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