Mind you, I say "deal with your relationship to colonialism". I'm not telling you what your specific relationship to colonialism is, because I actually can't. Not even on the level of pointing to people in a specific region or with a specific background.
Your relationship to colonialism, the ways you benefit & are harmed, the ways you participate or abstain, is specifically yours. I'm not telling you what it is. I literally can't & don't claim to.