exactly.
An analogy, maybe. Say I live in a small communal group where we do collective gardening. My hobby is to chop wood, with the precious axe my late father gave me.
So, I joyously chop wood for myself.. and also for my neighbors. A kind gesture.
Then neighbors come:
"We need more wood"
"I want thinner splices"
"There should be a rack for people's orders"
"I need a truckload for my friends"
And then:
"This jerk gatekeeps his wood"
"Yea, suck big time."
"This guy is a BDFL!"