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There's only one rule that I know of, babies—
God damn it, you've got to be kind.

40, food maker and photographer, tea enthusiast

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Pronouns: She/Her
Meatspace: Kalamazoo
Website: http://blog.thecrushedviolet.kitchen
Quote Credit: Kurt Vonnegut (God Bless You, Mr. Rosewater)

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2026-02-09 17:48:04 UTC

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I have always been under the impression, from having grown up around this kind of thing, that they hate their lives so much and have so thoroughly bought into the idea that they don't deserve better, that they want anyone who thinks they are 'above' that resignation to be punished.
Anyone who speaks against unfair systems and demands dignity and better treatment is 'weaker' than they are for not just taking it and accepting being miserable. So they side with the people saying the others should be quiet.
And they never put it together that that's where their misery comes from, too.

2026-02-06 12:11:56 UTC

Am I the only one who can't understand Bluey? Not the accent, I watch a lot of non-US TV. It just all sounds muffled to me.
Maybe I just rely on lip reading for accents and I never knew that about myself. But I feel like I've watched a ton of non-US animation so IDK.

2026-01-19 15:59:15 UTC

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This is also how I make my tea and when I went looking for replacement beakers online seemed to find that it's not a common practice.

2026-01-16 14:23:53 UTC

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It has been an adjustment to not assume everything said to or near me is intended to start a debate. I never got into the arguments, but I definitely assumed the worst by the end of my time on Twitter.

2025-10-30 19:12:45 UTC

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I feel like a lot of people have a relationship to the idea of 'blame' that I just don't understand.
Like, acknowledging that C happened because you did A or because you didn't know B, is exactly the same to them as telling them they did C on purpose and with malicious intent... which is bad and you're mean for saying it.
So they just double down on I DIDN'T KNOW and the incuriousness that keeps them 'blameless'

2025-10-05 13:11:04 UTC

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I often feel they look a bit staged, and /planning/ to show disappointment in a girl is even wilder to me.
But, yeah, even taking them at face value, I cannot understand the purpose of having a reveal, recording it, and posting it if one gender is going to upset you like that. 🫤

2025-10-04 13:48:24 UTC

I have, once again, powered through my large bag of plain black #tea (Assam) and am left with only... 32 small bags and samples of flavored and herbal teas to choose from. 🙁
A cupboard full of tea and nothing to drink.

2025-09-04 19:17:55 UTC

I have no idea what Silksong is and at this point I'm too afraid to ask.

2025-05-08 20:20:47 UTC

I've noticed companies aren't asking if I want to opt out of Mother's Day this year, and that's honestly one of the more baffling things the Right threw a fit about.
The absolute pointlessness of it.
Is it woke to have a dead mom? Or do they just think a gender they don't like hates the word "Mother"?

2025-04-22 17:42:30 UTC

I'm trying to get into the spirit of "remember when we used to post things just to post things" and share that I made this preserved lemon shortbread.
It's fine. I'll keep working on it.
This is my favorite tea cup, though.
#tea #food #TeaTime #baking
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2025-04-01 11:55:35 UTC

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It strikes me as that sort of Douglas Adams-style absurdist humor that I find funny but most people in my life seem to find irritating.
"The ships hung in the sky in much the same way that bricks don't."

2025-02-19 12:18:25 UTC

I want to make an effort to read blogs and other RSS feeds again. If you write about anything below (or similar) can you share your links? And please boost?
food, cooking, coffee, tea, wine
food justice, feminism, solarpunk, lgbtq rights, climate change
books, fantasy, mystery, romance, libraries
gardening, photography, art, crafts, fiber arts, pottery, flowers, pets, gaming, puzzles

2024-11-19 15:21:16 UTC

I don't really want to be on the biggest social media platform, I didn't find Twitter very fun towards the end.
I do want to 'talk about what you love, not what you hate.'
I just want to do it with people who understand that "I don't see any bigotry here" isn't a flex so much as an admission that they don't follow or believe marginalized people here.

2024-11-10 13:00:22 UTC

I very genuinely don't know how to get screenshots from my Switch and PS4 without posting to social media platforms I haven't used in years.
And what are the chances I can even do so without a sub on either anymore?

2024-09-06 12:44:24 UTC

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I've heard that a lot as an atheist.
Had someone ask me what prevents me from cheating on my spouse without religion.

2024-09-06 12:37:34 UTC

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This one absolutely blew my mind when I first read it. Not adhering to legal/social rules that I only begrudgingly accept to begin with? Sure.
Breaking my OWN moral/ethical code when no one is around or it is an inconvenience? WTF