Thankful Machine on Nostr: Yes, I have made this mistake multiple times and I probably will still keep making it ...

Yes, I have made this mistake multiple times and I probably will still keep making it because I'm an idealist and try to live my values. It seems to get me down a lot though T_T.

> none of them stood up for me. Even when I'd stood up for them in the past.

If this happened to me, I'd have a personal, real-time conversation with folks, do the NVC thing, and ask for that which you need without passing judgement or diagnosing them. If you still care to persist in that need, anyway.

I was just talking with my partner about why 'community' is so hard these days, why it has maybe always been hard, we talk about it nearly every day. It seems so complex that I find it hard to grasp any one concrete thing to exercise to make things better for people. It feels like it always comes back around to caring about people on an individual level, and being okay with that level of intimacy, attention, and commitment/obligation, or even just putting in the effort to try to like someone.

I'm afraid that some people just don't have that skill, and/or something else altogether merely loosely binds them, and it makes me sad.

I dunno...