npub1m26pksxajls9yrmtwx0zcvptzcx33t8ht8mfc5sdpcje0tp4nz8q9l2jhh (npub1m26β¦2jhh) Fun fact: Kitty's dev does not really care about optimizing startup speed and regularly makes this clear. See https://github.com/kovidgoyal/kitty/issues/330 and https://github.com/kovidgoyal/kitty/issues/4292#issuecomment-981090208.
I roughly had the same experience with Kitty and then just switched back to xfce's default, because I realized I didn't really need any of Kitty's goodies.