antsu on Nostr: As someone who has just done that, and following the "easy route" even (Mailcow), I ...

As someone who has just done that, and following the "easy route" even (Mailcow), I wholeheartedly agree. There's so much that can go wrong even if you do everything right.
It's like a rite of passage for computer-touchers, not your ordinary self-hosted service.