Olive Grove Eggs on Nostr: I cant stop thinking what lots of different server runners might be doing with my ...

I cant stop thinking what lots of different server runners might be doing with my notes instead of one person at company HQ! I'm really struggling with the relay concept. By the time I or a lot of other users find out a relay has been taking the piss and selling data and who knows what, the user concensus view is irrelevant? Still looking for a 101 on what I am missing.