The Tradright will tell you that those two are mutually incompatible. Then again, the Tradright also likes to pretend that either gays don't exist, or can be fixed.
I just wanted to be left alone and write programs for 40-odd-year-old computers that nobody other than a small handful of 40-to-60-year-old nerds will ever care about, which is a lot easier because it does not rely on the permanent and enthusiastic presence of someone else.
And yet, the Tradright will also say that my way is invalid.