My relationship with my brother has been acrimonious at best for over 40 years. This bruhaha over our mom's memorial service is just the latest iteration.
My mother wanted my brother to be close to her, and she treated him as if they were. She always was prone to fantasize about how good a son he is. I am realistic and that's partially why a great deal of the problems between us were about the way inconsiderate he's treated our mother since we were kids.