>Because nobody excuses the mens actions. Every man in the world universally wants to torture those men, because we can't empathize with them.
This isn't true. Do you think that men just wake up one day and decide to kill their families? There are signs and patterns of behaviors.
When someone I knew was murdered while pregnant, the authorities were well aware of the fathers history of domestic violence and she had an active restraining order. They didn't care to follow up on several reports friends and family made, because they decided her life didn't matter. His parents and friends celebrated his life as if he didn't kill himself after murdering our friend and their unborn baby.
I don't know why it's so difficult to admit that American society does not respect women as human beings, as if we're not constantly reminded of it. Even on fedi there are plenty of men who openly discuss murdering, raping women, and justifying violence towards them. Let's not act obtuse.