Red Rozenglass on Nostr: > incredibly dismissive. to not say anything, leaving you shouting into the void ...

> incredibly dismissive.
to not say anything, leaving you shouting into the void alone, would have been even more dismissive. so, baby steps. people need to be able to say i wish you a good day, before they could say i will sacrifice everything i could to save you.
> i wish i could feel bad for using you as an example and attacking you, but no, i don't.
hey, no worries, i'm not clueless, i know the risks of being "shallow positive" when someone is having a bad time, but the conversation has to start somewhere. i've been on the receiving end of shallow positive my entire life too, from people on the other side of the planet, who obviously cannot help, considering my overwhelming war circumstances. so your sentiments are not radical or shocking to me, they feel familiar.
> this nearsightedness in everyone is the exact pain point i've had in life for way too long now. it's easier for everyone to look the other way and leave me to figure it out all by myself. it's easier for people (like how you're doing) to say superficially well-meaninged bullshit.
it's not that people don't realize they're doing it, it's that they don't think they can afford giving anything more, to what is fundamentally an "online stranger", even if they had a shallow para-social relationship with them for years. people prioritize by circles of closeness, their family, their close friends, you almost never see people supporting someone they don't consider "close", unless they're tricked into it by some righteous tribal-belonging signaling nonsense.

the only people who will reliably stand by you in hardship, are ones you cultivate friendships with, over time, with reciprocity and gentle care. and even then, half of those will betray you anyway, in all kinds of unexpected circumstances.

but you've been through a lot;
you already know all of that.
> how about hoping my life gets better?
i really hope it does, opal. i offered before, and i offer again: i can perhaps help with discussing your situation in more detail, privately if you wish, lending you some brain-cycles, talk concrete strategy and tactics, or possibly providing minor online resources (hosting, etc.) or other forms of assistance, if it might help you stabilize your situation (portfolio for job hunting, discussing / proofreading your CV, or job application approaches, etc.). or, at the very least, i can perhaps offer a listening ear, if you need it.

i will not save you, opal, you will.
i can only try to help a little.