The Daily Stoic - Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living
Day 32
November 13th - Never Complain, Never Explain
"Don't allow yourself to be heard any longer griping about public life, not even with your own ears!"
-Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 8.9
From the Author:
"It's so easy to complain about this or that, or to try to make excuses or justifications for the things you've done. But that doesn't accomplish anything - and it never lightens the load."
Similarly to worry, complaining accomplishes nothing. Worry puts you through an event twice, and it's better to just take events as they come, and not worry of an outcome. It's better to do your best to deal with any situation on the spot, rather than run around in circles, throwing worst case scenarios into the universe. Rather, let it go, or think of the best case scenario, or how you will tackle the situation.
As with complaining, if something isn't working and it emotionally, mentally, physically or spiritually pains you, then do something about it. Whatever is in your power to change, change it. Speak to someone in a logical, results forward way. Find out how to change your situation for the betterment of your life, and hopefully not the detriment of anothers. If that's not possible, and the detriment caused could be too great, attempt to remove yourself.
"But why should I?" Why should you remove yourself, and why can't the other person (if it a person who pains you)? Do they know? Are they aware? Or have you just been complaining to others for the sake and satisfaction of having another agree with you? Why should you be the bigger person and take into control what you can and create a more positive flowing life for yourself?
Do not even complain in the privacy of your home or mind, as this upsets the mindframe that is required to succeed daily. Do not let the actions of others weigh you down, focus only on what you can achieve, and worry not.
No one likes a complainer who has no offerings of solutions. Be the solutions guy.
Mind; often we may feel the need to rant, to get something off our chest. Pick the person to open up to carefully, do not burden them, or do not pick someone who will take your burden. Be your own mule, or shed your pack to the winds.
Shevacai
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