homesafe on Nostr: Words aren't just about themselves! Not a single one of anyone's thoughts is just a ...

Words aren't just about themselves!

Not a single one of anyone's thoughts is just a series of words in a human language that can be directly and completely expressed on paper!

Words are a pattern in sounds or in light or in texture like braille - when a human mind generates them its doing so using processes that are not themselves made out of words - and when a human mind interprets them it cannot rely merely on a series of recursively nested definitions & semantic rules !!!!!

Sorry I'm using so many exclamation points, but like, I'm noticing we might have some really really fundamental disagreements on epistemology that'll make it really tough to communicate about these kind of things

I am totally fine just giving up on trying to find ways to cross this gap in how we understand things -

the kind of tone I'm *inferring* in your message ...

(like, my best guess among other guesses about "how pleasant is Sofia finding this conversation)

... based your choices of words (from all the other words - as far as I could predict in advance - that you *could've* possibly selected to express your thoughts, which my brain is trained by experience to associate with different mental states) ...

... leads me to guess that you're not finding this conversation very rewarding / enjoyable / amusing / helpful

So, if you don't wanna continue, you don't have to say anything - or say something that expressed clearly that you'd rather just have the last word and leave it there

I'm not literally guaranteed to reply to everything else - but I have a tendency to reply to *many* things that are not "someone stops talking to me" or "someone expresses a clear wish to stop hearing me talk at them"


(I wrote this comment trying to express roughly three things : )

1. how I currently view our difference of opinion on what it's reasonable to expect for others to think about what you say

2. a practical example of my own thought process in interpreting the information-content of something someone has written (trying to guess whether you're enjoying this conversation)

3. An offer to just stop here if, for whatever reason, our disagreements are not something you wanna continue engaging with

(I of course, had numerous other subtle intentions in word choice, sentence structure, and which sentences referenced which parts of other sentences - but there's no way you'd be able to guess which thoughts I was having exactly in making all of those choices - the *meanings* I was grasping internally and trying to reflect in my use of language)