It's a bit late for me to delve too deeply, but your post Alex reminds me of things that happened when I was a young teenager. Things that I didn't fully comprehend at that time, that mystified and frightened me but that I instinctively knew not to discuss.
I can't know how much of this men will recognise, if they're oblivious to the actions of their peers... and surely such episodes happened to women my mother's age, but there were no warnings...