The way I'm handling this is to ask nip 29 relays to push events to user (client)-selected push servers. This keeps the events off of public relays, allows nip 29 community relays to choose not to support notifications if they prefer privacy, and supports fcm/apns push. See below for the nip:
https://github.com/nostr-protocol/nips/pull/2194
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2026-05-09 23:56:17 UTC
in reply to nevent1q…90mv
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npub1jlrs53pkdfjnts29kveljul2sm0actt6n8dxrrzqcersttvcuv3qdjynqnPublished at
2026-05-09 23:56:17 UTCEvent JSON
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