I, too, wish I had had this wisdom, or at least earlier, if I have any of it now :)
Still working on it...
And I grew up in a different environment from what I posted, my "attention to detail" *cough* anal retentiveness *cough* was probably installed in me by my mother, I am still trying to figure out how to let go of some of it - Not helpful.
But hey - I had to work on something in life, didn't I? I am grateful it is not worse!*
*to the best of my knowledge as it stands so far