I don't understand the analogy.
If you've got an account on a server, and the server admin signs up for a relay from https://relaylist.com/ like relay.toot.io, for example, should you as a user be able to keep your content from going to relay.toot.io?
It sounds like you think people should have that level of control, but you answered "definitely no", which is surprising.
Evan Prodromou
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2026-06-05 13:59:02 UTC
in reply to nevent1q…jv6x
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