Decentralise on Nostr: OK do you have link where i can find more info on this? From what I understand no ...

OK do you have link where i can find more info on this? From what I understand no client supports this yet. And each client will also still restrict which relays can be accessed because of filters (necessary becayse you don't want your client accessing any old relay in the background). Every major relay will end up following the same spam/rules/filters , and others will be ignored. I don't see how the gossip method will work without filling peoples clients with spam or unwanted content/connections. What am I missing?