Why is your dependence less worthy than mine? What makes you so special that you get to suffer needlessly, while my life is easier?
I get the bit about needing to take responsibility and to contribute, but if you're able to contribute, and simply don't, that's still ok - you're welcome to resources anyway. If you can't contribute, you're welcome to resources. If you do contribute, you're welcome to resources.
There's enough resources for everyone.