One common disconnect I find when talking to non-autistic people is, it is understood from the start, for me, that language *inevitably* rounds things off. It's a blunt tool being asked to do precision work. So I say things and don't hedge them, knowing full well that there are edge cases and gray areas, because there are just so many of them and there's no way I could list them and I would have to qualify literally everything I say with a hedge.
Our brains filter differently. I don't think (correct me if I'm wrong) that the neurotypical experience includes this. It's my understanding that usually NT folks see things one or maybe two ways, and that's it, and it is this increased cognitive load of seeing a wide array of possibilities that makes communication and dealing with new environments difficult for autistic people.
So I guess, take me literally, but assume I'm aware of edge cases. IDK how well this approach will translate to other autistic folks, though.
Aaron
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