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  <title>Nostr notes by Gwen the Trans Balrog</title>
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    <name>Gwen the Trans Balrog</name>
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      <title type="html">This is true.</title>
    
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsyrpfa2xeuscnnxwaneds2w2ah7tqcakqpvhfndkt66vlmpczxnhqgdjemn&#39;&gt;nevent1q…jemn&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;This is true.
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    <updated>2026-07-04T14:37:06Z</updated>
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    <id>https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs956gh9f70kv63gryqxz8gd827js5xqr3wpvef4mdr9gsr3yzaxmczypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2a5gr83</id>
    
      <title type="html">Not all trans girls are terminally horny. Take me. Repeatedly. ...</title>
    
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      Not all trans girls are terminally horny. Take me.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Repeatedly.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Bent over the table, up against a wall, harder each time until my legs give out.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Sorry, what were we talking about? 🥵
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    <updated>2026-07-02T21:37:14Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">No one told me I was trans. I wish someone had told me when I was ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs2tn32nst9s90tnc8au0zmlnkmtpc0ccmxzkrf0r4nr9rf7ssfmnqzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2gn7xg4" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsptdfgd3j7mxk7jy38chaazsy0gvzftnkfu5r9jsdr2l0m3qglpecurj8z6&#39;&gt;nevent1q…j8z6&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;No one told me I was trans. I wish someone had told me when I was young enough for it to have mattered. And the message I got from society certainly wasn&amp;#39;t, &amp;#34;You might possibly be trans.&amp;#34; It was, &amp;#34;Yes, there are a few trans people and they are freaks and jokes and you can&amp;#39;t possibly be trans.&amp;#34;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I hope that might have improved a little. I think some kids get a more balanced message, like, &amp;#34;There are trans people and that&amp;#39;s okay.&amp;#34; (That&amp;#39;s slightly sarcastic.) Hell, &amp;#34;Trans people are freaks and jokes,&amp;#34; is still an improvement over, &amp;#34;There are no trans people.&amp;#34;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;But sweet fuck, statistically speaking, no one is telling kids, &amp;#34;You are trans.&amp;#34; No one is even telling them, &amp;#34;You might be trans.&amp;#34; That&amp;#39;s a made-up fear. But again, the people who made it up know that.
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    <updated>2026-05-31T20:38:53Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">Oh honey, no one is telling children they&amp;#39;re trans. Trust me. ...</title>
    
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      Oh honey, no one is telling children they&amp;#39;re trans. Trust me. Everyone is telling children that they&amp;#39;re cis, repeatedly, hard, insistently, like a chorus of total negation. If a kid manages to figure out that they&amp;#39;re trans in spite of every fucking thing in the world telling them they aren&amp;#39;t trans, it wasn&amp;#39;t because someone told them they were trans. The most they likely ever heard, and it&amp;#39;s not all that likely, is that it&amp;#39;s okay to be trans.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;But you know that already. You don&amp;#39;t want anyone to stop telling children they&amp;#39;re trans, because no one does that. What you want is for it not to be okay to be trans.
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    <updated>2026-05-31T20:38:53Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">Even leaving aside being trans, I still don&amp;#39;t understand ...</title>
    
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      Even leaving aside being trans, I still don&amp;#39;t understand people who are nostalgic for their high school years. But not leaving aside being trans, I really, really don&amp;#39;t understand it. I wouldn&amp;#39;t go back to high school again.
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    <updated>2026-01-01T21:28:22Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">Vampires: - Afraid of crosses - Have no reflections - Transform ...</title>
    
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      Vampires:&lt;br/&gt;- Afraid of crosses&lt;br/&gt;- Have no reflections&lt;br/&gt;- Transform into bats&lt;br/&gt;- Drink blood&lt;br/&gt;- The living dead&lt;br/&gt;- Both vulnerable to and intimately associated with impalement&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Trans people:&lt;br/&gt;- Afraid of people carrying crosses, at the very least&lt;br/&gt;- Frequently don&amp;#39;t like our reflections&lt;br/&gt;- Transform into things other than bats usually, but I think the transformation is the main thing&lt;br/&gt;- Take hormones? Close enough?&lt;br/&gt;- Deadnames&lt;br/&gt;- Both vulnerable to and intimately associated with &amp;#34;impalement&amp;#34;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I&amp;#39;m not sure what this means, but I like garlic so maybe it&amp;#39;s just a coincidence?
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    <updated>2025-12-31T05:10:45Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">The patriarchy is many things but @npub1lhx…r8hw has made me ...</title>
    
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      The patriarchy is many things but &lt;span itemprop=&#34;mentions&#34; itemscope itemtype=&#34;https://schema.org/Person&#34;&gt;&lt;a itemprop=&#34;url&#34; href=&#34;/npub1lhxdc8qgn3cwkncmgeg060x86fyzmchy0q9v5hn5fju43uz5jezq94r8hw&#34; class=&#34;bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1&#34;&gt;&lt;span&gt;timberwraith&lt;/span&gt; (&lt;span class=&#34;italic&#34;&gt;npub1lhx…r8hw&lt;/span&gt;)&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt; has made me realize one of them is a protection racket. The patriarchy says, &amp;#34;Women need men to protect them,&amp;#34; which on its face is sexist, but then you dig a little deeper and realize that the only thing women need that protection from is men.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Toxic masculinity says men have to be violent in a violent world, but why is the world violent? Because of toxic, violent men. And they&amp;#39;ll even admit that. They certainly don&amp;#39;t believe they need protection from femininity. So they reinforce their need for violence by violence and it becomes a toxic feedback loop.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;You can see similar patterns in violence even if you exclude masculinity from the equation. We need an army to protect ourselves from other nations&amp;#39; armies which only exist to protect those nations from other nations&amp;#39; armies. It&amp;#39;s turtles all the way down.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;But I think there&amp;#39;s a deeper protection racket going on, at least with the patriarchy. The patriarchy can&amp;#39;t exist without violence and threat, so it constructs this feedback loop to give it a raison d&amp;#39;être. It says, in effect, &amp;#34;You wouldn&amp;#39;t want no one should get hurt,&amp;#34; while being the one who hurts as well as the one who gets hurt. Untangling that sentence is nothing compared with untangling the patriarchy, obviously.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Anyway, just a cheerful thought for your morning commute or whatever, mostly because I wanted the excuse to make a meme.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;CW: eye contact&lt;br/&gt; &lt;img src=&#34;https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/115/661/424/170/761/737/original/ac17669fe3cdab93.jpg&#34;&gt; &lt;br/&gt;
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    <updated>2025-12-04T13:01:14Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">https://oursouthend.wordpress.com/ is British but a lot of the ...</title>
    
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqs2hefagd4zs3v3lmz8jaeed5sh6ze8e4vdzvrprm8tcuyuanqzhncn49pq6&#39;&gt;nevent1q…9pq6&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;https://oursouthend.wordpress.com/&#34;&gt;https://oursouthend.wordpress.com/&lt;/a&gt; is British but a lot of the stuff can be easily repurposed to Americans. I&amp;#39;ve made a number of the recipes and they&amp;#39;re straightforward but not boring.
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    <updated>2025-10-22T16:25:02Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">I use Tailscale for home purposes, mostly so I can access movies ...</title>
    
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      I use Tailscale for home purposes, mostly so I can access movies from other locations without having to deal with reverse proxies and security. It&amp;#39;s great software. I&amp;#39;m just saying this as preface: I would recommend it to anyone looking for a remote networking solution.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Yesterday they sent out an email about various events they would have a presence at, general marketing stuff, mostly in tech hubs and cons. Nothing remarkable. One of the events was that they were sponsoring a family movie night with another company. The movie picked was Harry Potter, but most people don&amp;#39;t care, and it&amp;#39;s a fine family movie. I shrugged and moved on with my day. Life&amp;#39;s too short to get pissed off about stuff like that.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Well, today they sent out an email apologizing for the choice of movie and promising to do better in future.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I&amp;#39;m not stanning a corp. I wish there were a decent open-source option (well, they&amp;#39;re built atop the open-source option, but goddamn do they make it easier). But it was nice to see. In a world which has gone full-on transphobia and doesn&amp;#39;t seem to think that Jowling Kowling Rowling is worthy of comment, I guess enough technical people who use Tailscale aren&amp;#39;t assholes and complained, or who knows, maybe someone at the company pointed it out, but whatever the reason, they rethought the movie choice. And they didn&amp;#39;t just do it, they apologized for it to everyone on their mailing list.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;It&amp;#39;s a small thing, but I thought I&amp;#39;d share it both to say that I will continue to use Tailscale because it really is good software, but also if you need a nice thing, I guess this is a nice thing.
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    <updated>2025-09-23T23:27:38Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wizard_Clip maybe?</title>
    
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsgwcjqckavqwy7dk3yzg055yea98cp0qt5zp68z0s2vsjrwlj8eus5u5jzl&#39;&gt;nevent1q…5jzl&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wizard_Clip&#34;&gt;https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wizard_Clip&lt;/a&gt; maybe?
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    <updated>2025-08-17T16:29:46Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">The perfect earrings don&amp;#39;t exis... ...</title>
    
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      The perfect earrings don&amp;#39;t exis...&lt;br/&gt; &lt;img src=&#34;https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/751/943/818/763/510/original/e61cc1d06fe77786.jpeg&#34;&gt; &lt;br/&gt;
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    <updated>2025-06-26T22:08:25Z</updated>
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    <id>https://yabu.me/nevent1qqstwucyzem7fq78ngvj78nepas6qe6nyccjqeu9ar6pjptsfvq6amqzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2w96cnc</id>
    
      <title type="html">I&amp;#39;m not sure things have improved much, sadly. But yes, you ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqstwucyzem7fq78ngvj78nepas6qe6nyccjqeu9ar6pjptsfvq6amqzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2w96cnc" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqs99tak267euyz9tlhaxxcp29tlex9j6xvw3zeg8vr04r4fcwjtrmqgn3hge&#39;&gt;nevent1q…3hge&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I&amp;#39;m not sure things have improved much, sadly. But yes, you are absolutely correct.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I didn&amp;#39;t grow up exactly like that, but my experience was largely positive with regard to gender nonconformity. I think for me it was just that I didn&amp;#39;t know that one could be trans. Or rather, that &amp;#34;normal&amp;#34; people could be trans. It was the sort of thing you saw on daytime talk shows. My parents were totally fine with any sort of gender nonconformity, but there&amp;#39;s an ocean of difference between that and being a different gender. I think they would have been okay with that too, but they had less framework to deal with it. They&amp;#39;ve been nothing but supportive but it wasn&amp;#39;t on their radar. It wasn&amp;#39;t really on mine either.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;So yeah, being allowed to experiment doesn&amp;#39;t mean there&amp;#39;s no trauma, absolutely. I&amp;#39;m sorry you&amp;#39;ve got trauma to deal with ♥️
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    <updated>2025-05-05T21:32:42Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">I have no idea what was wrong with my childhood that made me so ...</title>
    
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      I have no idea what was wrong with my childhood that made me so fucked up, other than that I guess I was a girl the whole time and no one knew or let me be one...&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I know exactly what was wrong with my childhood that made me so fucked up, huh?
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    <updated>2025-05-05T20:01:33Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">Thanks for letting us know. It&amp;#39;s a tough call but thank you ...</title>
    
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsfq0lvglnggnkzxsml5zqd8tqza27ux0w96pmhjss0pk4awuwsn0qludtqh&#39;&gt;nevent1q…dtqh&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Thanks for letting us know. It&amp;#39;s a tough call but thank you for making it 🙂❤️
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    <updated>2025-03-26T13:34:01Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">It is becoming frighteningly apparent that, as I age, my eyebrows ...</title>
    
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      It is becoming frighteningly apparent that, as I age, my eyebrows are growing those peaks old men get and before too long I&amp;#39;m going to look like Frank Morgan playing the Oz gate guard in The Wizard of Oz. I&amp;#39;m going to have antennae. This is unacceptable.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;What&amp;#39;s even better is that I have shaped my eyebrows and they still do this. It&amp;#39;s the direction my eyebrow hair grows in the middle, not where the follicles are located. I trim them and they point up nonetheless.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;In conclusion, mirrors suck and I hate them.
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    <updated>2025-03-10T04:34:03Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">Apparently it&amp;#39;s controversial to say that I, a trans woman, ...</title>
    
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      Apparently it&amp;#39;s controversial to say that I, a trans woman, support trans men, as well as trans people of other genders and of no gender, and further people who don&amp;#39;t identify as trans of other genders and of no gender?&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I don&amp;#39;t get it. I really don&amp;#39;t. If a cis person said the same thing, we&amp;#39;d put any controversy down to transphobia or more broadly perhaps queerphobia. So... how is it not when I say it? How is it not transphobia for my statement above to be controversial?&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Beyond that, what possible reason could trans women have for failing to support trans men, trans nonbinary people, and other genderfucky sorts of people (I&amp;#39;m sorry if I&amp;#39;m excluding someone and I don&amp;#39;t intend to, it&amp;#39;s just that there&amp;#39;s no simple collective noun for &amp;#34;the non-cis of all genders&amp;#34; because even that category isn&amp;#39;t perfect)? I mean, I guess there are individuals who fall into the category of &amp;#34;people who aren&amp;#39;t cis but who also aren&amp;#39;t trans women&amp;#34; who are assholes and shouldn&amp;#39;t be supported, but that&amp;#39;s true of pretty much any category of people. It&amp;#39;s no reason to deny support to everyone else.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Anyway, my trans masc siblings, I love and support you and I think you&amp;#39;re amazing. My trans and non-trans siblings of various or no genders, I love and support you and I think you&amp;#39;re amazing. Anyone who I&amp;#39;ve missed who isn&amp;#39;t cis in some way or other, I love and support you and I think you&amp;#39;re amazing and I&amp;#39;m sorry I can&amp;#39;t be more specific and you&amp;#39;re not last or least.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;And this isn&amp;#39;t to imply that I don&amp;#39;t love and support my trans women sisters. My love and support isn&amp;#39;t a limited quantity or mutually exclusive. There are plenty of things I love and support which I haven&amp;#39;t listed here. Fedi, please be nice.
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    <updated>2025-02-16T18:17:58Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">The existence of the gender binary implies the existence of the ...</title>
    
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      The existence of the gender binary implies the existence of the gender trinity, which means that not only is Jesus trans but the Holy Spirit is nonbinary. Tell your friends! Take it to church! Burn down religion and dance in the ashes!
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    <updated>2024-12-26T08:36:01Z</updated>
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  <entry>
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      <title type="html">Don&amp;#39;t worry, I&amp;#39;m not holding you legally responsible for ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsduwuj88rjdd7r8dy3vf033ddp6q8c8gc02mgpemreh66v80rwtvgzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2tvd6xr" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqszlfawsruwjh249rjj7pukqdpulf9xh983d46n4mwppxyu502sfuc30mhjj&#39;&gt;nevent1q…mhjj&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Don&amp;#39;t worry, I&amp;#39;m not holding you legally responsible for any advice  🙂&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Putting me into survival mode? Yeah, that&amp;#39;s probably it. I don&amp;#39;t know enough about cPTSD. I should probably remedy that. My life is definitely constant survival mode.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;But please don&amp;#39;t apologize for your triggers. I used to joke that I&amp;#39;d been bullied so much as a kid that no one can tell what my soft targets are anymore, so I&amp;#39;m hit by very strange things these days. You can&amp;#39;t choose what affects you.
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    <updated>2024-12-26T04:58:42Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">Thank you ❤️ I don&amp;#39;t know what trauma I have that&amp;#39;s ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqszrap0p58fa3pvgdu77v7xz5x5z5kv72gjvqwxl9ptputcvggmxpqzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p23ymeez" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsfzy9r0x96vaejwhcs83xthkf22kc9kutstspzzgffeynq58uhvagk8nm4c&#39;&gt;nevent1q…nm4c&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Thank you ❤️ I don&amp;#39;t know what trauma I have that&amp;#39;s worthy of PTSD, but you may be right. That&amp;#39;s what&amp;#39;s so confusing about it I guess.
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    <updated>2024-12-25T18:01:16Z</updated>
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  <entry>
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      <title type="html">I read something someone said about being too tired to have ...</title>
    
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      I read something someone said about being too tired to have emotions and that&amp;#39;s true, except I do get to have bogus &amp;#34;feelings&amp;#34; which are entirely down to brain chemistry fuckups. So I&amp;#39;m too tired to feel anything except things I know aren&amp;#39;t real but which cause stress anyway.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;My spouse doesn&amp;#39;t know how I manage to remain cool and collected and seemingly unfazed by disaster, and the secret is that I&amp;#39;m too tired to feel much of anything about it, so for the sake of continued survival I pretty much dissociate from it completely. When I let anything out, it breaks me.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;So gender is kind of not working for me at the moment. I&amp;#39;m doing things by rote. I don&amp;#39;t get to have euphoria.
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    <updated>2024-12-25T00:03:40Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">You&amp;#39;d be surprised. His method really works, even with ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsr3297t76mns07vpulhzxvk6ckyvtq8j6sgf0rnk23azynpexr9zczypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2uyzknv" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqszutwme7vfsrlqajy0qfczp0uznz4g8rknfvmyfh4hgwx7m4nlayg7tum0n&#39;&gt;nevent1q…um0n&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;You&amp;#39;d be surprised. His method really works, even with acrylic. I&amp;#39;ve impressed multiple people with my ability to paint landscapes and all I did was watch a few episodes of Bob Ross. I can&amp;#39;t paint anything else, but made up landscapes are surprisingly easy.
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    <updated>2024-11-03T00:59:29Z</updated>
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  <entry>
    <id>https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsx48zhmfplwgxcldsmnf80urae3aqrtz52jny94jpjeggrc7gs6xqzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p29mq3dh</id>
    
      <title type="html">My parents wanted to know my plans regarding hormones and said I ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsx48zhmfplwgxcldsmnf80urae3aqrtz52jny94jpjeggrc7gs6xqzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p29mq3dh" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqs0spwtay9m79rlquh95288prynt4my0a72j8czcgk3gtdkv2gzftq9mjwwu&#39;&gt;nevent1q…jwwu&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;My parents wanted to know my plans regarding hormones and said I should make sure to figure out what plans I qualify for that offer gender-affirmative coverage when I have to re-up my insurance in November. I&amp;#39;m not sure how to go about doing that because they don&amp;#39;t list it on the marketplace website comparisons. I&amp;#39;m going to talk to the local trans group about a number of things, and this is one of them.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Seriously, health insurance sucks ass and I hate it.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;But that they asked was supportive, so I liked that.
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    <updated>2024-09-19T01:31:49Z</updated>
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  <entry>
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      <title type="html">They managed to misgender me several times over the course of the ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqszd2qfylgej79urs5p3rarvgwdcq9scce6zr6vqtr8phjlwvra3vgzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2lqhe4u" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsx48zhmfplwgxcldsmnf80urae3aqrtz52jny94jpjeggrc7gs6xqgzacv9&#39;&gt;nevent1q…acv9&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;They managed to misgender me several times over the course of the evening. I wasn&amp;#39;t feeling up to correcting them, largely because it doesn&amp;#39;t matter that much to me. Like, I get euphoria from being gendered correctly, but I don&amp;#39;t really get dysphoria from being misgendered. I feel like I&amp;#39;m either repressing it or letting down the side, depending on how my brain weasels are trying to fuck with me at any given moment, but rationally, it doesn&amp;#39;t really seem to matter that much. I still present very much not femme, so it&amp;#39;s hardly surprising.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;My parents have known me my entire life, and the only other person who can say that is me, and I sometimes misgender myself by accident, so it&amp;#39;s a process.
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    <updated>2024-09-19T01:31:49Z</updated>
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  <entry>
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      <title type="html">I survived. It went well, I guess. I&amp;#39;m not totally sure they ...</title>
    
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      I survived. It went well, I guess. I&amp;#39;m not totally sure they completely get it, but they said it doesn&amp;#39;t make any difference to their love for me and they support me. My mother also said I had said things in the past which made this not a surprise, but I have no idea what those were and wish someone had told me because I confess I was a little surprised when I figured it out.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Anyway, thank you to everyone for the positive vibes and love. It was all appreciated and I love you all.
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    <updated>2024-09-19T01:31:48Z</updated>
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  <entry>
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      <title type="html">I more meant that they love me no matter whether I&amp;#39;m trans or ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9wc6as7j9lvrvsyy4tzd9t80tj2wj0g2ekf6k8crj4rngad7svzgzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p284fy2c" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsgan0zt98z8vy5alxvs7svec3nrlj7nwggqjfvlwny8jyznvnsdkccelp5z&#39;&gt;nevent1q…lp5z&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I more meant that they love me no matter whether I&amp;#39;m trans or not.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Thank you ❤️
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    <updated>2024-09-18T17:29:04Z</updated>
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  <entry>
    <id>https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8qf4nkr8e29x770802kjr3smpnm76fdlj906ydfdl5tetln3gj9czypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2tg8ktn</id>
    
      <title type="html">My cats don&amp;#39;t care that I&amp;#39;m trans. I&amp;#39;m taking solace ...</title>
    
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      My cats don&amp;#39;t care that I&amp;#39;m trans. I&amp;#39;m taking solace in this.
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    <updated>2024-09-18T03:35:09Z</updated>
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  <entry>
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      <title type="html">My face and lack of hair are the hardest to overcome, I think. ...</title>
    
    <link rel="alternate" href="https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsd67l74kelcxat4s2ylul860fzjypc2hjj36ekm33qyg0mlu8h88gzypeqlx93ekf0s3yjk920h4675k992s00fgx57dadrq459wtcha9p2m4327s" />
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsdgtmw3yhewd2hjnxp3mhz4nvmjmc40r0aqxyv8d48qggq2vm652s8e6up6&#39;&gt;nevent1q…6up6&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;My face and lack of hair are the hardest to overcome, I think. Thank you, hugs always cheerfully accepted ❤️🙂
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    <updated>2024-09-15T01:18:10Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">Oh, in other exciting news, I saw myself in the bathroom mirror ...</title>
    
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      Oh, in other exciting news, I saw myself in the bathroom mirror but couldn&amp;#39;t see my head, and I caught just a glimpse of femme there. Orc, but femme.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;I&amp;#39;m going to have to figure out how to incorporate my head into the package. Right now, it&amp;#39;s the least femme thing ever.
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    <updated>2024-09-14T22:58:28Z</updated>
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      <title type="html">Skulls! Skulls! Skulls!</title>
    
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      In reply to &lt;a href=&#39;/nevent1qqsvermu0cese25e86p8gj55w4ct6wxldefsledqdckhl7yuuzncnasq3j5r4&#39;&gt;nevent1q…j5r4&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br/&gt;_________________________&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;Skulls! Skulls! Skulls!
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    <updated>2024-09-03T16:04:57Z</updated>
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