2026-06-11T17:09:31Z https://yabu.me XeroxCool https://yabu.me/npub1u76dfa5ckrlkxpvdkgase40ncfg93swxkkh6rck839g34dr6rdsszyn3wn https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsfg3cm2hsyqcc2362sany5sdyherfh3v2u783k8393jfd3qll4atszyrnmf48knzc07cc93kerkrx470p9qkxpc666lg0zc7y4zx450gdkzf4lye7 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswnew9wzmyvqcmeckxs7v87999l5p4a4s4a57ne950cd7nn9mspggpx2lq9'>nevent1q…2lq9</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Why would you not be good enough? This doesn&#39;t make sense. Unless you mean not qualified, sort of? Because you&#39;ll want to put $30k+ (20%) into the down payment, maybe? 2026-05-07T17:58:56Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsd4rg2x2vfuz6u2su0yyp9vpzj4ktjs0vwvzh7ect39hg62kxa5cszyrnmf48knzc07cc93kerkrx470p9qkxpc666lg0zc7y4zx450gdkzkhee9g In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqspw58wp5glfn8sv42ptq28weep08lyq3gkl5cgqwfv0xraycusjggx4spcs'>nevent1q…spcs</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>There&#39;s nothing to lose by trying as long as you accept that the worst case scenario is they&#39;re still not part of your life.<br/><br/>Maintaining relationships is hard. They&#39;re likely minimally social these days as well. Somewhere around your age is where many people suddenly feel lonely. It&#39;s a tough lesson on the concept of &#34;friends of proximity&#34;. That&#39;s usually a negative term, but, quite frankly, I believe all friends are friends of proximity. If you change proximity (new job, differetlnt school, drop a hobby, move, etc), you have to work harder to stay in each other&#39;s orbits. Shortened tangent: this is something I&#39;m at peace with now. Instead of putting asterisks next to everyone that&#39;s a work friend or hobby friend, they&#39;re just friends. I don&#39;t know when that friendship will end, so I focus on enjoying the current relationship.<br/><br/>The point I&#39;m coming to is that, while I understand this is a unique situation for you, it&#39;s a common general feeling. That will make it tough to rejoin social circles that likely don&#39;t exist anymore. But, if you do manage to meet up, have at it. Enjoy it. Perhaps there are other people in your orbit that can be reevaluated as a friend. Maybe you can find something to do with them, even if it&#39;s just a very basic hangout after work or something. I find many people are hesitant because they also think of these friendships as temporary, but hopefully you can get a feel for options and feedback. I know your post was about old friends, but I&#39;m hoping they&#39;re not your only option. <br/><br/>And please, please, do not take social media posts as their daily diary. It&#39;s so hard to accept, but every day they&#39;re not posting, they&#39;re just as bored and alone as everyone else scrolling. Social media is the high lights reel. So much of it is projection. 2025-12-02T20:02:01Z