2026-04-20T10:36:10Z https://yabu.me Tom Coates https://yabu.me/npub1u44t0cykgrhkszr97q6nkpfqd39fjk0a5g2wxmtx3rguj37j59kqkl3ep6 https://media.me.dm/accounts/avatars/109/685/712/780/969/573/original/ce2fc9794f5f145d.png https://media.me.dm/accounts/avatars/109/685/712/780/969/573/original/ce2fc9794f5f145d.png https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8jqkq4xzugn85urf0ws9f9cj3ek33tzqj67f422mkv4p4q209p5szyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc5ek9lx In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2xt8mq8jj9m2pkzqm5n599qesvkfx3ueus54uq4rnvcxclsz96kqsymtud'>nevent1q…mtud</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>it is not up to you to decide what I should be required to listen to or be subjected to “for the good of the world”. It is not up to you to decide that i should have to be open to replies or comments from someone who thinks people like me should be imprisoned or treated medically. It’s up to me who I listen to. 2025-01-14T23:49:34Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs2xt8mq8jj9m2pkzqm5n599qesvkfx3ueus54uq4rnvcxclsz96kqzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcfxulyg In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8t2tjkfw5r80t9887gnu32c4wkvcfuectpjcc3p5e8sjltrs26xgm28all'>nevent1q…8all</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>the only acceptable future is the same one that happens in the rest of the world. If you don’t want to live in the middle of people who hate you, you move. If you don’t want to read media from people who hate you, you don’t. If you don’t want to be subjected to awful speech, you go somewhere you don’t have to hear it. 2025-01-14T23:48:16Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8t2tjkfw5r80t9887gnu32c4wkvcfuectpjcc3p5e8sjltrs26xgzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcmma7t0 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsve07v7gk5dyjnwsjh28k6qv9gft7vvtrguuz3npu38cqmzt2c7aca4yzfa'>nevent1q…yzfa</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>no, you don’t, you propose one ecology, with one arbiter of what is acceptable, and anyone who doesn’t like it or feels subjected to harassment or abuse has to leave the public sphere. This is not a reasonable end to this story - excluding minorities from the public so that a vicious right can attack them. That’s an unacceptable future. 2025-01-14T23:45:57Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs2c9zxzmm3rkyjcnrqfqlmtet7sd0a83vnu7wrxl46r0faa98r5jgzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcc8rhxg In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsp8ng35e2e322x5zau6t3ayw0qzvncvl26h850nza2vlal9zq7lkcrxz4dj'>nevent1q…z4dj</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>not at all. The right currently claims they don’t approve of blocks or censorship. Just choose an “uncensored” provider. 2025-01-14T23:39:38Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsgjlt3k9rmspeh2upptn38du9z8298zx6nez9lsu4sfytngauw8gqzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc3yp9w4 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqstu82qmpxm9r8m300ueef7ju3n0evq793dj994s7atjtv7wks4qncjkc8dw'>nevent1q…c8dw</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>yes. We can give people the choice about whether they want to or do not, and we can respect that choice. 2025-01-14T23:26:23Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsyze57f3vgmhp0vrsuvc4xdwy0qkwxzd0ckkre9ztd6dvuhrh8lrqzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcs3uuu0 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsq526m2vggc872s4qzwva2ye8vtpa8f9anldld0k6fyxc64j9zsms9fxcnr'>nevent1q…xcnr</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I think a lot of right wing people think I shouldn’t have the righr to not be exposed to their opinions as they simultaneously try and ban books from schools and trans people from public life. I say, go and have those awful views somewhere else. And I’ll have mine here and we’ll see gradually which kind of space normal Americans would rather be in. 2025-01-14T23:10:22Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsq526m2vggc872s4qzwva2ye8vtpa8f9anldld0k6fyxc64j9zsmszyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc0gt8za In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvkwmyd6sqcw5l5j4cryp597mte0lhml8a3scz9y6pulnsn4w0asseecntv'>nevent1q…cntv</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I mean we’re in that world already I’m afraid. And I suspect the rise of social media has made that the case. I’m just going to suggest that putting me as a gay man who thinks trans people deserve rights and protections in the same space as vile anti-LGBTQA+ assholes who lie about us every day is not likely to result in more understanding and cross partisan friendship. I think you’re just wrong there. 2025-01-14T23:08:41Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs83cyycc2nxx7z0krzmll63sy3agsq6j3d6lkmakdq9kjh95mxrvgzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc74xhl6 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdz5e9juncsndpsk0y3htahe4lm2jd2fkdm37x5pj75766hzy594g0tujlm'>nevent1q…ujlm</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I’m not saying it does constitute harassment. But as an individual in all social networks I am currently free to choose to block that person regardless. I think that’s fine. I think that’s my choice. This is no different. Why don’t you think I should have that choice? 2025-01-14T22:54:53Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs88aesnuud8l5hk33gw63w2rmtnen6434h7da9ps76h5x7sns6upqzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc6phwsa In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswnj7guf5qv4yjerqnemacrzc0qmfjy2dywtv84zn0phyfydhmkgq5c0e5j'>nevent1q…0e5j</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>meanwhile, let’s be clear what you’re saying. You’re saying that if I do not enjoy being on a space because it’s (from my perspective) toxic I should have two choices - put up with it, or leave the public space. The latter does not maximize communication or understanding. The former is intolerable. So there has to be another choice. The other choice is individuals with the freedom to choose whose speech to hear. 2025-01-14T22:51:55Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqswnj7guf5qv4yjerqnemacrzc0qmfjy2dywtv84zn0phyfydhmkgqzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcrc2kfl In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsz54uuecavna5em2u0v9jwmqgptqxk0a6p206qjv8dx64wu5qg8vcax06pq'>nevent1q…06pq</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>in the end we have a choice - whether we as individuals have a right to choose not to listen to people we don’t agree with or if we don’t. I think we do. And that such choices are the best ways to have people participate in the world comfortably. 2025-01-14T22:49:48Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsz54uuecavna5em2u0v9jwmqgptqxk0a6p206qjv8dx64wu5qg8vczyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc2pltqp In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswa62jcrek5e7vjkuaxk33shsq6lfaecmm4glzfu6mk8tpvm0dxdgtep9h7'>nevent1q…p9h7</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>you consider it harassment. I consider it harassment. They consider it part of their free speech and something I should be subjected to. You only have to look at Elon’s Twitter to see what he thinks free speech looks like. It looks like abuse. 2025-01-14T22:48:38Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsq9nzuy723rvj75qtc25vxy52cxdztxt9fj20zk2eyts7jqcts3sgzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcfd25m8 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgc5p88jneqt3rd8pm3pa5ellshgyq7lfx4vqddfsjrmr9hjh89ygnydmsg'>nevent1q…dmsg</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Personally I think it’s totally reasonable and in fact desirable that every individual can choose what kind of content from other people they want to see or don’t want to see. So what’s the risk? That we might get more polarized and separate from one another? 2025-01-14T22:41:17Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsgc5p88jneqt3rd8pm3pa5ellshgyq7lfx4vqddfsjrmr9hjh89ygzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcgsjc5y In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdmml7920acvmask6dnyy2cj8cmzyqsta9kfr8f77pv9pekqfphdgjehu83'>nevent1q…hu83</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>So maybe an echo chamber isn’t so bad! Maybe if people can choose which echo chamber they want to be in - whether that’s one without people sending them dick pics or one that’s child friendly or one that doesn’t allow racist or homophobic abuse or one that’s entirely Christian - maybe they get to have their community without forcing everyone else to hear what they’re saying. 2025-01-14T22:39:42Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsdmml7920acvmask6dnyy2cj8cmzyqsta9kfr8f77pv9pekqfphdgzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcfdwg3n In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgyng09cxnfad5juel4q2rduactq8gvnnr24q8zpkc8nc4wf8fcxs3sw3am'>nevent1q…w3am</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Is that an echo chamber? I don’t think so. But if it is, it seems to me to be an entirely reasonable echo chamber for me to want to live in. One where I can literally just express my views without someone screaming at me that I’m a pedo or child molestor or that I should be imprisoned or shot. 2025-01-14T22:38:14Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsgyng09cxnfad5juel4q2rduactq8gvnnr24q8zpkc8nc4wf8fcxszyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skccnvt7k In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8et4npdcf3daax3xc3c3cw6srupkk8tuntqv0n4upye97rw67drg7fxpdh'>nevent1q…xpdh</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>so what solution is there? If I want to be able to express myself freely without daily harassment and abuse? I think I should be able to put a filter on my conversations which stops me having to see awful bigoted people harassing me. 2025-01-14T22:37:19Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8et4npdcf3daax3xc3c3cw6srupkk8tuntqv0n4upye97rw67drgzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc7ez277 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsxdgwmnsrp6ddy935v2770glzr3j2fjmxf75yxtdumnm3sehgtzegmhxvvg'>nevent1q…xvvg</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>here’s the problem - I’m a gay man. I don’t think it’s wanting an echo chamber to just not be in a place where people threaten me with murder or call me “faggot”. I think that’s just baseline humanity. But the right *does* think that they should have the right to scream abuse in my face every day. 2025-01-14T22:36:23Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsxpnu60jkazyh5twwk8ywvw3q7mcf36jfzymdyz3s4uwj66u3k2rszyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcdfhayv In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs93hg6p8m02f8rrk50hvvzkxwswstcn7qey4rmhl2gcc7h2z8m89gqtf7m6'>nevent1q…f7m6</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I think you’re talking here about mainstream vs the extreme edges. I think it’s clear most of the extreme edges are not federated with by the mainstream. I’m talking about a world where there’s a Twitter level space or a Parler or Truth Social and a Bluesky flavored space with lots of protections. If they’re large enough they’re unlikely to just ban the other entirely. But they may block a large number of users. 2025-01-14T22:23:17Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsv6ag5q9fwwtnn93cp020ns04rw486hz0wktwtz98v4glu3z7ddgczyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc4wrjht In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdsnwgxxh5wp0hg5c55ef59ct923a6h72g756p0rkx8729dd6aypcc8lc9s'>nevent1q…lc9s</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I don’t think that’s 100% right. I think the goal is almost precisely two or three large and many smaller providers differentiating on things like moderation. I can totally see one provider selling themselves as the “free speech” group and another as the “nice environment” group. I think the latter group would win, but as soon as there are options, people can vote with their feet. 2025-01-14T22:04:23Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqswtww84tayj850ln53py9mhf806dnma6meuqchsmmh8g5jm7p4vpqzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skcpcvzxv I think it’s important to keep reminding ourselves of the reasons we want decentralized social media or a Fediverse or anything like it to win. It’s because if implemented properly it makes the world a better place. It protects free speech, but it also makes it possible for people to choose the level of moderation they care about, to be in a place that corresponds with their values, and to feel safe in it. 2025-01-14T04:12:01Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsxrc8e0p44vurs3umsyu8gl76lzz2yulkm46vg9h8497kcrn8mjnszyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc2s5k9a The world is very strange sometimes <a href="https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2024/09/cards-against-humanity-sues-spacex-alleges-invasion-of-land-on-us-mexico-border/">https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2024/09/cards-against-humanity-sues-spacex-alleges-invasion-of-land-on-us-mexico-border/</a> 2024-09-20T22:31:56Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs945t8x3qfetj7pvy0qwgp2n688y8y2nfm39qedvf7zc0lzhqp33gzyrjk4dlqjeqw76qgvhcr2wc9ypky4x2elk3pfcmdv6ydrj2862skc3sutej <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1sacl4yvfyeurcng493dnfsq4w0hnelqcs9fzk2fk60rn3mpj49ds90kcpe" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Erin Kissane</span> (<span class="italic">npub1sac…kcpe</span>)</a></span> just want to say I loved your talk, if meant a lot to me, if affected me quite strongly. Also I’m working on trying to set up a thing with Evan Prodromou to make a better and more functional fediverse and I’d love to catch up about it sometime this weekend if you have a moment 2024-08-24T21:29:42Z