2026-04-08T15:11:38Z https://yabu.me Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach https://yabu.me/npub1t44cnrkrmv70hxwppjh4wcdtsc5s6f2uj0q8hem8hqdqcrqckfnqv9j96q https://media.universeodon.com/accounts/avatars/110/225/965/703/810/631/original/200c04edeecfefc1.jpg https://media.universeodon.com/accounts/avatars/110/225/965/703/810/631/original/200c04edeecfefc1.jpg https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsx7zsun4y6ceeuaym43hcjjswjte08xglmdepa47j3r0d5f0yadxszypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexv7eksv5 If you are not mean or insulting or hurtful to them, you are not responsible for them being mean to you.<br/><br/>They may be hurtful, but it’s not because of you. It’s because of whatever’s going on inside of them.<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity 2026-01-20T14:26:01Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsdhqed790xhy0tttlr82m385qehz7e3kph6nrnppwvvz0swjxdeqgzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvgnj0ut What to Expect in the Later Identified Autism Journey <br/><br/><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TS4ntEz_Ids">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TS4ntEz_Ids</a> <br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity<br/> <img src="https://media.universeodon.com/media_attachments/files/115/878/187/646/803/616/original/27cd80e43852531f.jpeg"> <br/> 2026-01-11T19:47:03Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsw0ts0a3k8c4tcc4fglmrvq343xg06d8n09ftg4sjmhhpk95mefvgzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvgj4v46 What if a meltdown wasn&#39;t a &#34;bad&#34; thing, but a signal that you&#39;re having trouble coping with something? Or that you need something you&#39;re not getting? <br/><br/>#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #BurnoutRecovery #Sensory #Interoception 2025-12-20T14:17:01Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsqxzzulpjwmma89s5dqrhpg6zmtgltk64z26srzm00rzfq9pcxxgszypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvv35w74 Is it rude if an Autistic (adult or child) spends holiday gatherings in their room, or opt out, instead of with the family?<br/><br/><a href="https://youtu.be/L6NxYEI-M3A?si=l6m8qhhS01BWY_TG">https://youtu.be/L6NxYEI-M3A?si=l6m8qhhS01BWY_TG</a><br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance #Understanding<br/> <img src="https://media.universeodon.com/media_attachments/files/115/748/206/151/105/558/original/79a7549c5ed06f01.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-19T20:51:03Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsf2ef8rq7ffv0ln32nt06s6aj33r86y6v3kmew7e4nx7wtd6mg89qzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvxjgqj2 Alternative Answers to: &#34;How Was Your Day?&#34; <br/><br/><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=buzv0NdYVSo">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=buzv0NdYVSo</a> <br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity<br/> <img src="https://media.universeodon.com/media_attachments/files/115/691/311/760/137/484/original/d442623c9e8c2bbe.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-09T19:42:04Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqstm0dqxz9wgh569ahs2t855uk8ah96jz22l80zx9g8c3d3nasmvugzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvflh5w7 Who decided that screaming when you get burned on a hot stove is an acceptable reaction, but walking out of the room when people are talking over each other is an unacceptable reaction?<br/><br/>Whatever hurts your senses genuinely hurts, whether or not it bothers anyone else. And you are allowed to feel what you feel, and to take care of yourself.<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity 2025-12-07T14:12:01Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsg0s0k0yh608upngyzdempsjs9pqsatd9cazddjs7xz757t59ldzczypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvtkalux When you hate being perceived, and are #Autistic, here’s what might be going on:<br/><br/> <a href="https://youtube.com/watch?v=k6Ao5sW4oQo&amp;si=K6qAT_ci78EvZLh8">https://youtube.com/watch?v=k6Ao5sW4oQo&amp;si=K6qAT_ci78EvZLh8</a><br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD 2025-11-28T17:54:20Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs0fnname3m7da90lwdzfk09p2quruwkv52fcmaazefrrnuxvh762gzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvd2njmx Why Finding Your Autistic Community Didn&#39;t Fix Your Loneliness (The Truth No One Talks About) <br/><br/><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jhbpj7UiZ8">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jhbpj7UiZ8</a><br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND 2025-10-28T16:16:08Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8cgkq327pp03qwxe8e04d77lzpkn0mwt9k4w94nccyhs6suw9e8szypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvc5nx0n When I was growing up, I was misunderstood a lot. And because my logic seemed so reasonable to me, I couldn’t understand why anyone wouldn’t get on board with it. <br/><br/>So I generally assumed that if they didn’t agree, it was my fault for not explaining myself well enough.<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity 2025-09-12T14:22:02Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsyk6n05zus4mn4xej5gvndcjyeca83jy9hmrnfcu2pp72hgmcjxdszypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvp4aurm What does the world need to learn from you that you know precisely because of the things that you’ve been through? <br/><br/>#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD 2025-01-25T14:41:01Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsfpcggthlfq089v7479pahp4azlpr6sujpqvgw3rl952k938aqjgqzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvvl85w3 Although life is complicated and hard for everyone, as Autistics, we’ve got this extra layer of difficulty because the way the world works is not currently adapted for how we work.<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #AutismAcceptance #Understanding 2025-01-20T14:42:00Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs2ncyhz7ya488890x955x0p9kazu3s0zgf4qsmpdedexq44arw5gqzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexv3358pm The domestic labor that you contribute to a household saves the equivalent cash that it would take to replace that work.<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD 2025-01-07T15:56:00Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsrekydxnfy27m8faettj6ymmxvgkcgx9x9zvvrxyjrr24ycd9nwzqzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvrhurk6 Our autistic sensory experiences are just different from a lot of people’s. And when we get messages that it’s not okay to be different, we try to ignore that instead of actually meeting our needs. <br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Sensory 2024-11-25T14:54:01Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqswtfkga2fadgktnaur7ef6y7rn6m7st9xzfqd07dxy04gwdf2h5eqzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvg8aqnq You’re not alone. You’re not the only one who feels that. You’re not the only one who’s weird in that particular way. <br/><br/>(And I use weird as like a reclaimed word; I love weird. I love being weird.)<br/><br/>#NeuroDivergent #Neurodiversity #Neurodiverse #ND #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD 2024-11-05T14:48:00Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsy5gwrp8gu0jty5pevecw49qhwjmdz8cxqxkxegxcpvamkcqh0w8qzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexv48k2gt Some places and people might never be safe in this current version of our world. <br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD 2024-11-01T14:23:00Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9m38tv4s7322gsf3096hsywcukkgkedpw3z8knzgn7dug4rd8hlqzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvcfvqeg Sometimes we’re so used to not be accepted, or that acceptance being conditional, or being withdrawn later, that even genuine support isn’t believed.<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #ND #NeuroDivergent 2024-09-28T14:24:00Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsfht40yxdqjwh92auycs7q00jqpsmkqm9md0v65rsl4a7zqfv2ytgzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvjd2yea Aiming for A &#34;Good Day&#34; Is Too Much Pressure <br/><br/><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXFpRswS0wY">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXFpRswS0wY</a> <br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD<br/> <img src="https://media.universeodon.com/media_attachments/files/113/024/304/531/229/112/original/aef56d0dec8b4a8d.jpeg"> <br/> 2024-08-25T19:27:03Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsfwm8f69fszv25pny9ce6cnpqt69y5dyuvg556lt0h48slgcs5qugzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvgjhrlg Masking prevents us from really knowing ourselves, from being known. And therefore from ever feeling like we’re actually accepted for who we really are, because we’re not showing people who we really are.<br/><br/>#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD 2024-08-24T13:09:01Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9nq9hegp69x7rcz0m3lquxzvzueyfzswq3amcflspvepd54tq3kgzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexv6qpqep When you know that something bothers you, but you’re trying to figure out more about it, ask yourself, “what is it about it that I don’t like?”<br/><br/>Is it the fluorescent lights that you don’t like at the grocery store? Is it the chewing sounds at the restaurant? Is it the feel of buttons on this particular piece of clothing?<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #BurnoutRecovery #Sensory #Interoception 2024-08-21T14:47:00Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs85jwwlcz8mvscvleux6sy2utw9eu73npg0rxf9flewh0946ddwcszypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvjkd8gd When we get messages of &#34;you’re high maintenance&#34;, &#34;you’re too much work&#34;, &#34;it’s not okay to have your needs&#34;. That can really hurt, first of all, but it can also teach us that it’s not okay to be us.<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD 2024-08-07T14:21:01Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsrmm82jx40y59hq3upjl3jlk6mmyvfcp32u7x07rkxlyxrw9pv33qzypwkhzvwc0dne7uecyx274mp4wrzjrf9tjfuq7l8v7up5rqvrzexvlvfplv A lot of times growing up in our society, we’ve gotten the message that it’s not okay to feel what you feel. What I really, really want to drive home is that it is okay to feel what you feel.<br/><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #AutismAcceptance #AuDHD 2024-08-04T13:29:00Z