Nostr notes by Tamtam

when I think of it, being talked to sycophantically is the ...

2026-05-06T09:10:51Z

In reply to nevent1q…t44y
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when I think of it, being talked to sycophantically is the default expectation a man has towards a woman. They are only freaking out now because their expectations are sometimes not being met and they weren't being aware of them in the first place.Time for the AI girlfriend to appear on the scene. He'd much rather have one of those than to become aware of his unconscious dependency. And beating women back into their previous form is a lot of work...

as for a woman that would raise suspicious feelings. we are not ...

2026-05-06T08:50:16Z

In reply to nevent1q…7wwl
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as for a woman that would raise suspicious feelings. we are not usually treated in a sycophantic way in this world.

from the viewpoint of a sufficiantly narcissistic immature male

2026-05-06T08:48:16Z

In reply to nevent1q…s7dv
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from the viewpoint of a sufficiantly narcissistic immature male

"independence" in the context of what is beign discussed ...

2026-04-30T10:17:42Z

In reply to nevent1q…a7wy
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"independence" in the context of what is beign discussed here, is a trauma based myth
it is also an Illusion of men, that lye to themselves about their dependency on women. A myth of strength. A patriarchal myth. Created by trauma in childhood, and later part of toxic maskulinity.
many of us have not experienced inter-dependency as connectedness and bliss. We carry scars of lack, dangerous enmeshment and powerlessness that we need to heal on our way to becoming full members of an interconnected community we can depend on. Dependency is deeply emotional. Realizing and creating a healthy web around us is healing.

I am wondering, reading cory doctorovs newest article about ...

2026-04-13T08:59:24Z

In reply to nevent1q…l09p
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I am wondering, reading cory doctorovs newest article about #fascism as a result of austerity and missing public services. what role #feminism plays in this. Or more specifically: the decline in willingness to provide unpaid services, emotional support, security and psychological status/feelings of power and satisfaction to men. There seem to be a lot of similarity in the experience of someone who loses healthcare and a man whos emotional care and daily unpaid services provided by women is withdrawn from him.
Pluralistic thinks it is" reasonable to assume, that people react that way. " ( with fascism) Well "people" is not a very sharp word to use here. Why are women not reacting that way to the many services, securities, comforts and support that have always been missing from their lives? I keep coming back to a realization, that any analysis of "people" and society, be it psychological, social, or political, must take the category of gender, must take the underlying patriarchy into account, in order to accurately describe reality
He closes with "Socialism or barbarism" isn't just a cliche – it's actually a choice on the ballot.
Is the way I assume roles of empathy, care and responsibility in relationships, the way I invest my energy towards someone elses needs, raise children, the "socialism" in this? And is "barbary" the way a deeply patriarchal male will lead his life, expecting to be served, not serving others, unless they are his overlords, promising reward? We will need new words for all of this, as our understanding becomes more holistic, as we integrate the invisible sphere of female experience into it.

no luck. The invidious server "not able to handle ...

2026-03-14T15:47:13Z

In reply to nevent1q…8kuq
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no luck. The invidious server "not able to handle request" either.
There was the same situation a few weeks ago,then freetube brought out a beta update, but it only lasted for a week.
I spose YT is very active in trying to inhibit them right now.

#freetube stopped working. new update only worked for a few days. ...

2026-03-14T04:12:41Z

#freetube stopped working. new update only worked for a few days. Are there any alternatives to the app?

4.1 this is a report from 2016. Would you say it's not like ...

2026-02-10T15:17:31Z

In reply to nevent1q…qeh4
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4.1
this is a report from 2016. Would you say it's not like that anymore? And can you point me to some present day info?

XMPP server based on Prosody

Most of our messenger testing time was spent on an XMPP server based on Prosody, which, according to our research at the time, was considered a beginner-friendly XMPP server service. Although the initial setup was indeed very simple and I found reading up on the relevant XEP extensions late into the night quite interesting, problems arose during productive operation that did not inspire confidence in the system:

Lost messages: Messages were lost in a non-reproducible manner, were marked as “undelivered” (but were still transmitted), or vice versa: were transmitted according to the client, but were never actually delivered. We usually only noticed this indirectly when users in MUCs responded to something that was incoherent from the perspective of individual users.
Unreliable synchronization: Less frequent, but also annoying, was the unreliable synchronization of messages across multiple clients (mobile/desktop).
Catastrophic client situation: However, the final reason for reorienting ourselves toward a federal messenger system was the catastrophic client situation on iOS at the time: Since the “hard core” of our testers only used Android themselves, we only knew Astrachat and ChatSecure as iOS clients, whereby only the latter is free software and we therefore recommended it to the first iOS users who were willing to switch. Here, however, message exchange worked mainly in MUCs.

and are you a techperson?

2026-02-10T15:09:27Z

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and are you a techperson?

Moxie Marlinspikes:"One of the controversial things we did ...

2026-02-10T12:44:49Z

Moxie Marlinspikes:"One of the controversial things we did with Signal early on was to build it as an unfederated service. Nothing about any of the protocols we’ve developed requires centralization; it’s entirely possible to build a federated Signal Protocol-based messenger, but I no longer believe that it is possible to build a competitive federated messenger at all."
So after reading this I thought, well, everything that we like about signal can be turned into a federated messenger. Why is nobody doing it?
I gave me at least a little bit of hope that someone or, some group will.
I believe the need for privacy is getting more urgent by the minute.. The situation has changed quite a bit, since that decision at signals was made. We need a signal -quality messenger as part of the fediverse
#Signal #matrix #xmpp #privacy #security #opensource #fediverse

Insomnia ,sitting up in bed with a fountainpen. #ink #Art #sketch ...

2026-02-01T10:19:54Z

Insomnia ,sitting up in bed with a fountainpen. #ink #Art #sketch