2026-06-06T15:07:15Z https://yabu.me Jan (DL1JPH) https://yabu.me/npub1calh2kwckgv9d6yuvqc2gp32tg974kgq2dgda92e8mkqjcax2c3svxn4mm https://files.sueden.social/accounts/avatars/109/482/749/735/349/374/original/7f66d195ac1b4a22.jpg https://files.sueden.social/accounts/avatars/109/482/749/735/349/374/original/7f66d195ac1b4a22.jpg https://yabu.me/nevent1qqszu7s6h0n9psvfl7fvrmk9qlw770745mq25hs2mnzq7vln96hqlrqzyrrh7a2emzeps4hgn3srpfqx9fdqh6keqpf4ph54tylwcztr5etzxg8f26p In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9wn2xp36re6ygwjfrdycjve08fmr2pvemmp2k65829atl9k02qegwf5xen'>nevent1q…5xen</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Perhaps it&#39;ll help to reframe things a bit... think about an airplane. If the masks drop, you&#39;re instructed to put your own mask on *first* - not as an act of selfishness, but because you&#39;ll be the next one to need help if you don&#39;t. It&#39;s the same thing. If you can&#39;t think straight from exhaustion, there&#39;s no way for you to be the best you can be. <br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1n369d4wvsy0xn5kel8tylvv9jtluk3pmeq8n36h2lz3jw77uters65rnyq" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>levampyre</span> (<span class="italic">npub1n36…rnyq</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1mvca9te2eel85c6k3rtr4qu94rcwzxjxy086zy420vpfnyyhsf9qrfpkp6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Violet Madder</span> (<span class="italic">npub1mvc…pkp6</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> 2025-05-14T13:59:12Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsyguutzep04009qmqvq0wvmsz72rfzrtrskeh59q3enw7tdhsxhaczyrrh7a2emzeps4hgn3srpfqx9fdqh6keqpf4ph54tylwcztr5etzxg35y2a In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv8949yermrdmgz7jf0r67ql0qcfm6zrhqnjx6c8zgdkp9urcvwrsr7r63k'>nevent1q…r63k</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>That&#39;s probably the worst possible version of &#34;your interpretation of other people&#39;s standards&#34;... Yes, it takes time to get out of that - and quite possibly a good therapist to help you along the way. I think the big question would be - what are *your own* standards? What do *you* want to accomplish, what kind of person do *you* want to be? <br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1n369d4wvsy0xn5kel8tylvv9jtluk3pmeq8n36h2lz3jw77uters65rnyq" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>levampyre</span> (<span class="italic">npub1n36…rnyq</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1mvca9te2eel85c6k3rtr4qu94rcwzxjxy086zy420vpfnyyhsf9qrfpkp6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Violet Madder</span> (<span class="italic">npub1mvc…pkp6</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> 2025-05-14T08:20:37Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9v4ra28pmvvmy8gzjmqy2lkn8ztzmww3pl2vv75swwhy63llj37gzyrrh7a2emzeps4hgn3srpfqx9fdqh6keqpf4ph54tylwcztr5etzxspm9pn In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsrc4p3h43veudrskaw76x7lawfsprjkxmcf3xkr567y9v228cegvgyzqnhd'>nevent1q…qnhd</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>To be clear, I hold myself to some very high standards as well; however, I know those standards are my own and achievable - and I rarely struggle to meet them, unless I&#39;m in dire need of rest. The one big change I&#39;ve made is to recognize the early warning signs and heed them. The contingency planning that comes with that I can handle. The key was knowing what to expect. <br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub16ww2qgx9hedwrwv6zlx4u999dry6ya2a84wcg2gd04caggxz439qw53mwa" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Aaron</span> (<span class="italic">npub16ww…3mwa</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1mvca9te2eel85c6k3rtr4qu94rcwzxjxy086zy420vpfnyyhsf9qrfpkp6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Violet Madder</span> (<span class="italic">npub1mvc…pkp6</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> 2025-05-13T19:14:24Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsrc4p3h43veudrskaw76x7lawfsprjkxmcf3xkr567y9v228cegvgzyrrh7a2emzeps4hgn3srpfqx9fdqh6keqpf4ph54tylwcztr5etzxyf4nu9 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsp2davcl7llch0d6097xyewjgdlt6qzpah5wun9sulyuhls6fw2wq7e7f87'>nevent1q…7f87</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Here&#39;s a question, though - is it your own standard you hold yourself to, or is it your interpretation of other people&#39;s standards? If the former, take time to rethink your priorities. If the latter... Why? <br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub16ww2qgx9hedwrwv6zlx4u999dry6ya2a84wcg2gd04caggxz439qw53mwa" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Aaron</span> (<span class="italic">npub16ww…3mwa</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1mvca9te2eel85c6k3rtr4qu94rcwzxjxy086zy420vpfnyyhsf9qrfpkp6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Violet Madder</span> (<span class="italic">npub1mvc…pkp6</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> 2025-05-13T19:10:13Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqswrx2caudzux94zyjhmkhwvhfujdztynuqqla6x4pdaa45h85m79czyrrh7a2emzeps4hgn3srpfqx9fdqh6keqpf4ph54tylwcztr5etzxe7s2g8 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdynepwc8c3wnrnjf9wa3y85dzx2wt3adc5jnzvjm2dvrwaml0jjqtkrnuq'>nevent1q…rnuq</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Exactly. I think that&#39;s the key difference for me, too. I&#39;m kinda fortunate in the sense that I&#39;ve never been able to actually mask enough to not stand out, so I&#39;m used to being the odd one out... It&#39;s just that I now know that I&#39;m not fighting some sort of &#34;broken&#34; part of my brain, but am actually just wired a bit different. <br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1n369d4wvsy0xn5kel8tylvv9jtluk3pmeq8n36h2lz3jw77uters65rnyq" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>levampyre</span> (<span class="italic">npub1n36…rnyq</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1mvca9te2eel85c6k3rtr4qu94rcwzxjxy086zy420vpfnyyhsf9qrfpkp6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Violet Madder</span> (<span class="italic">npub1mvc…pkp6</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> 2025-05-13T17:32:02Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqszwc9ukc2yvdngxstvvfwuh50uzfms5hw05x77slf3dgtz3alnxtqzyrrh7a2emzeps4hgn3srpfqx9fdqh6keqpf4ph54tylwcztr5etzxj7j5nl In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsfptu75ntar59tfqpqx523gew4560gg25w8wyg66uv3f5e5uzwrkqqcwqwx'>nevent1q…wqwx</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>It worked perfectly for me... Until I couldn&#39;t keep up with the pressure anymore. Then I&#39;d crash, find somewhere else to go and repeat. Until that last time, when I was too completely done to even consider another restart. That&#39;s when I found out what almost everyone else guessed long before... <br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1n369d4wvsy0xn5kel8tylvv9jtluk3pmeq8n36h2lz3jw77uters65rnyq" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>levampyre</span> (<span class="italic">npub1n36…rnyq</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub16ww2qgx9hedwrwv6zlx4u999dry6ya2a84wcg2gd04caggxz439qw53mwa" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Aaron</span> (<span class="italic">npub16ww…3mwa</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> 2025-05-13T09:08:12Z