2026-04-05T20:13:12Z https://yabu.me Light Owl ☸️ https://yabu.me/npub1a6lzsr8valxwx6wndpr8zc2jh45t3zpnv6u90d2evr5zjg9nya2qw9kuqn https://s3.c.im/accounts/avatars/111/129/674/717/500/119/original/314a224dd5980b68.jpg https://s3.c.im/accounts/avatars/111/129/674/717/500/119/original/314a224dd5980b68.jpg https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsp7uru7hn473s47836vlse2gf8dsa2rqv8ja280yat2uc8k7885mqzyrhtu2qvanhuecmf6d5yvutp227k3wygxdnts4a4t9sws2fqkvn4gwmlunf In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvvtmjhfpyf4z0lh2q02kcy3hxy8s8yjttkp5jnc326mt3txdsw6qs20qse'>nevent1q…0qse</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Another anecdote: A friend of mine in the #Philippines couldn&#39;t connect to my #XMPP server in #Singapore, *until* he turned on a VPN with an exit node in Singapore. There&#39;s all sorts of strange QOS rules lurking in the various ISPs&#39; routers here in Asia. 2025-04-25T12:11:04Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs2q68dljrfxf5d8ad3x94kr29yq0v439zz3udgpheq3u2r3h9hw3szyrhtu2qvanhuecmf6d5yvutp227k3wygxdnts4a4t9sws2fqkvn4gtap92d In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsx3n77dg0vlmaklf6kszwpjttzwp8ngk2cxt86fqcsv3gzygwre9cqr9cq4'>nevent1q…9cq4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I&#39;m OK with all these hostnames being split up in XMPP, but as to using all those non-443 ports... sooner or later, a &#34;standard&#34; #XMPP server will surely heavily use ALPN and port 443. 2025-04-25T08:36:50Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsqp3ctl3tefpt3smpnahwu0kvuap2aruxusvh2vluvrhcskjpww3szyrhtu2qvanhuecmf6d5yvutp227k3wygxdnts4a4t9sws2fqkvn4g0ht0pm I tried out the #ooni network tester app from #FDroid. I have good connectivity here in #Malaysia, both from a cellular SIM card connection, and the monastery wifi (a fiber internet connection).<br/><br/>But alas, the Ooni tests don&#39;t test for #XMPP, in their instant messaging apps testing! Only #Facebook, #Signal, Telegram, and Facebook Messenger are tested for, apparently. I do have trouble with XMPP, on the fiber internet here. Insidiously, brief XMPP text messages can be sent, but any video memo (say, 40MB in size, about 4 min worth of video) will only 1% upload, then get stuck. Attempts to resend will keep getting stuck. It seems that the XMPP traffic gets throttled to nothing after a small amount of data is sent: say, 400kb or so. I *can* send these video memos from my cellular SIM card connection.<br/><br/>I wish Ooni could have warned me about this, as it caused a friend to not receive a video memo for about 10 days, until I caught on to what was happening. 2025-04-24T07:59:37Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsgw4mukktn6w7xpckaxnqrhrvwvpydzd2h8k8qnhpu66qczjpv47czyrhtu2qvanhuecmf6d5yvutp227k3wygxdnts4a4t9sws2fqkvn4gtx5pwq In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgunlpcyv8tya2wn2czgw93w4t0s32vd7fkfl2nykx7usmgx4z2fgran0he'>nevent1q…n0he</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Have you ever read Susan Pinker&#39;s &#34;The Village Effect&#34;? It has research relevant to what you&#39;re trying to understand. <br/><br/>BTW: She was on TED here:<br/><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ptIecdCZ3dg">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ptIecdCZ3dg</a><br/><br/>Also relevant:<br/>&#34;Kitestring: Friendship project&#34;:<br/><a href="https://www.hinterlandlab.com/case/kitestring">https://www.hinterlandlab.com/case/kitestring</a><br/><br/>#psychology 2024-07-26T21:57:14Z