2025-12-17T12:35:10Z https://yabu.me nova (they/them) https://yabu.me/npub150dt5hdm09j4zyu7l0tjprcw49rql88xwk8uvtkl4wy9j8fn4hgqtaa4ju https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/webpublic-b62c4cb5-295a-43e4-bca6-24f3d67fa350 https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/webpublic-b62c4cb5-295a-43e4-bca6-24f3d67fa350 https://yabu.me/nevent1qqswtp04tkrq3qthqclafwut3lx8pf300g8vr95hy3xdz3l3vd6a6zqzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqgp64ww when i was born my mom’s sister was very very excited to be an aunt<br/>and wanted a way to refer to her nieces and nephews with one gender neutral term<br/>and coined us as nublings in the 90’s 2025-09-17T03:03:10Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqszkrsn8zjvwj9zzpd5wj2nukf6z50v8lwjp644el7vfahaledsgrgzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqh66gkk In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqszz2d4h3u799gaa9x3vgmj96x0hzawtm8ele0u37vyhgvxfk90ajg0tr2sc'>nevent1q…r2sc</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>true trans liberation comes when everyone - cis and trans and otherwise - can look how they want, act how they want, and achieve the care that they want, while being supported by the people and systems around them<br/><br/>this includes informed consent hormones for *anyone* who wants them<br/><br/>using whatever name and pronouns and identity terms for *anyone* who asks<br/><br/>informed consent surgeries of *all* varieties<br/><br/>and none of this being restricted by gender identity, presentation, characteristics, or other gatekeeping bullshit 2025-06-21T17:33:50Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqszz2d4h3u799gaa9x3vgmj96x0hzawtm8ele0u37vyhgvxfk90ajgzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqgsxsca In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsped2t33cha8nt0gcl05xurpyuqhwlnzfq8ee3n80hn32kuradhyqg2fppw'>nevent1q…fppw</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>this includes if you describe your organization/laws/medical system as trans-affirming but they have no recognition of non-binary people<br/><br/>stop pretending like cis-normative (and hetero-normative) trans rights are rights for all trans people and start fighting for the rights of *all* people of *all* genders 2025-06-21T17:26:52Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsped2t33cha8nt0gcl05xurpyuqhwlnzfq8ee3n80hn32kuradhyqzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaq3vf398 if your trans rights don’t include non-binary rights i don’t want them 2025-06-21T02:58:39Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsqr8pm9lng9sz3f3udqgn4ldvn3pylrcgv5lt9sn0f76p3t0x30lszyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqr2a6ns make the awful gamer men mad by adding a select your gender option at the start of zelda but no matter what you choose you get the same body (link) 2025-05-30T22:04:50Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsq4vj9m98lesv8zrqd4p85tms5cg58pdsuywr3wrmkg3dkwkr747gzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqat7rj7 workshop specifically for cis people to “discover their gender”<br/><br/>workshop consists of reflections on questions such as:<br/>- how would you describe your gender?<br/>- what makes you feel that way?<br/>- what attributes are prescribed to your gender, and how do you (or do you not) align with those?<br/>- how about those around you?<br/>- how do others perceive your gender?<br/>- how would you change how others perceive your gender?<br/><br/>everyone knows trans people exist but they consider their gender separately to trans people and innate to themselves. put a stop to it. 2025-05-06T03:16:27Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsgk0j8hennddxpx0pkntaa3yzwlfpyycvygkjysfnjw6vcn3kk6ggzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaquz08yk reviving those boosts after reading a trans person’s posts about how she started with identifying as non-binary but felt she needed more, she “needed to fully transition”<br/><br/>that shit is so dismissive to the existence of non-binary folks and the validity of all forms of transition<br/><br/>non-binary people can transition; you realizing you’re not non-binary doesn’t change anything about what transition care you can undergo :neodog_facepalm: 2025-04-08T21:19:35Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsw36twdjgvpg4erh65h92f5fdmq0j4xywrpg78lc4y7ftxqmmye2gzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaq58g2ul In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsx5enaqlgmn066lmq0ugua3qngp4hl22fqq3h6zzfk8ggprcmus6csl50ae'>nevent1q…50ae</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>new gender for the cis: boy+ and girl+<br/><br/>for when their government-mandated gender fits but they actually did the exploration to come to that conclusion 2025-03-03T22:31:37Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsx5enaqlgmn066lmq0ugua3qngp4hl22fqq3h6zzfk8ggprcmus6czyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaq4cc2w7 that’s right cis folks, this gender monstrosity injects itself with testosterone weekly AND takes progesterone daily! can you imagine such a complex gender? no? of course not, you simple cissies. maybe one day you’ll be enlightened. until then, enjoy your government mandated gender. 2025-03-03T22:08:13Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9vg6fwx8z8qa2lddd5uyvanw6f82zavysr729jhzdccusvrp08kgzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaq2svqa0 transfems on a date<br/><a href="https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/webpublic-4450d162-ef82-43d4-a094-51b4d3b6a5d4">https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/webpublic-4450d162-ef82-43d4-a094-51b4d3b6a5d4</a><br/> 2025-01-16T04:25:50Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsxf8fk4g3xyjrgh3eeyrax7ssvtz2m2xc8uluhqkyqn2w5t0l6ypqzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqsahchn incredible example of the impact of a good cis ally to trans folks: my university prof<br/><br/>i made a comment one day about the single stall washrooms in my faculty’s building being gendered and how ridiculous that was<br/><br/>she fought for that to be changed with much pushback from the business faculty (and won)<br/><br/>and she pushed for that further around campus after that change<br/><br/>and she mentioned to me today how, when designing the new building on campus, they made ALL the washrooms gender neutral because of HER push on this topic<br/><br/>i never told her to advocate for me, she never wanted credit for these actions (they silently changed and i only heard about them later in natural convo), she just heard me and acted with what power she had to advocate for change 2025-01-13T00:53:03Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8623zeyakgkjft869g2ey0arsjf8j65g622ukthh54apnfejnu4szyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaq6h8pql hey fedi i got you something<br/><a href="https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/webpublic-665ec790-cb8a-43ea-8f17-e1fde78bb462">https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/webpublic-665ec790-cb8a-43ea-8f17-e1fde78bb462</a><br/> 2025-01-05T02:48:46Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsvgkaqsek2xqn2qn89lupd8q06wytp0k4gj8fvkrslnzdheelpr4qzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqsql245 not *all* cis men (my boss would never) 2024-12-16T23:52:22Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsv2nm99vz7ndctte3t937tpx5k2xqv264eve8uw0snzvj5rva8x4gzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqfflan6 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvwmgxvg4nnt3dkmz9yuy4c8dex8ecky7f9ewcpfeacaf6vkuxyxq6w79x0'>nevent1q…79x0</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>“fully transitioned” reinforces that the ideal gendered form is a cis-appearing [insert gender here] and that that should be (or is) the goal of trans people of that gender<br/><br/>“fully transitioned” stems from forcing trans people to become sterilized to have their gender recognized (which is still the requirement in many places where gender changes are allowed)<br/><br/>“fully transitioned” implies that people who don’t (or can’t) centre cis-passing in their transition goals are “less transitioned” or less whole as trans people 2024-11-18T22:17:10Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsvwmgxvg4nnt3dkmz9yuy4c8dex8ecky7f9ewcpfeacaf6vkuxyxqzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqms04x7 just a reminder there is no such thing as “fully transitioned” and this is a concept reinforcing cisnormative expectations on trans people<br/><br/>transition takes many forms: from the social transition of coming out, taking on a new name, or trying pronouns; to legal transition with names and licenses and certificates; to medical transition with different combos of hormones and surgeries. and any combination of these forms is valid and “complete” in and of itself.<br/><br/>you don’t need all of these things to be trans and you don’t need ANY of these things to be trans. 2024-11-18T22:09:28Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsru0aug93nv696ysx50899a78wmk6lpj0amdzwu390p9fw4fns4fqzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqwwt347 this is your reminder to not wait for a “special occasion” to use things<br/><br/>burn that nice candle when you want<br/>use that nice bath bomb when you think of it<br/>enjoy that yummy snack when you want it 2024-11-18T01:06:58Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8tkqx2cuhu2a60vxy964jzfdgdzq52gllyczwal95k702lc05glszyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaq3zg350 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8s9cyuvj7zv2g96q6h3wmrzlem53pdrx6rxhe83fepvme4hpshvcepzlrm'>nevent1q…zlrm</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>let’s get back to the basics:<br/><br/>the bare minimum to be trans looks like simply recognizing your gender identity, and that being different than the one you were assigned at birth<br/><br/>if non-binary is a gender term, then identifying as such, when you were not assigned it at birth (because no one was), makes you transgender<br/><br/>yes, even if you do not have a gender - a lack of a gender is still not what you were assigned at birth<br/><br/>#TransTuesday 2024-11-12T22:40:26Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs0das28pvad59c6dkl9mez37ar6nqrwd3t70alxzdtqcpklvt748gzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqd2u9v4 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8s9cyuvj7zv2g96q6h3wmrzlem53pdrx6rxhe83fepvme4hpshvcepzlrm'>nevent1q…zlrm</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>transphobia and enbyphobia are born out of the same binary gender structure and expectations. that’s why they’re both under the transphobia umbrella.<br/><br/>most commonly, this looks like policing people into boxes of &#34;man&#34; or &#34;woman&#34; and negatively responding to folks when traits they present with don&#39;t agree with the &#34;man&#34; or &#34;woman&#34; box the perceiver has put someone in<br/><br/>#TransTuesday 2024-11-12T22:33:13Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8s9cyuvj7zv2g96q6h3wmrzlem53pdrx6rxhe83fepvme4hpshvczyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaqsxzyla In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9wagnevqtehwezy2wmpcqw47eefnthnd954pe2jty632y83ps65gda3sn9'>nevent1q…3sn9</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>so i&#39;ll start this one off with, trans is an umbrella, which encompasses non-binary. but non-binary as a separate and distinct category is still useful and applicable.<br/><br/>enbyphobia is transphobia like non-binary is trans. they&#39;re under the trans- umbrella, but the distinction is still useful for discussing.<br/><br/>#TransTuesday 2024-11-12T22:32:58Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9wagnevqtehwezy2wmpcqw47eefnthnd954pe2jty632y83ps65gzyz3a4wjahduk25gnnmaawgy0p655vruuue6cl33wm74cskgaxwkaq9pde0e today for #TransTuesday i&#39;m going to talk about transphobia, enbyphobia, the overlap and disservice &#34;transphobia&#34; provides as a catch-all for transphobia towards enbies, and my thoughts on the distinction of trans and non-binary as terms 2024-11-12T22:32:32Z