2025-12-16T09:50:22Z https://yabu.me terra (trans as in transgressive) https://yabu.me/npub12jpz4ucwfz8xuwlu57nyvjp3kxm733n6tw9d73u5tfa37kfl4m6smv2f8a https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/9c0f4752-e73e-40e7-a7b9-81e0da33d9c0.png https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/9c0f4752-e73e-40e7-a7b9-81e0da33d9c0.png https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsy4reqpvv7pptg85gdxytavqdt5fjfzcrxuylqevxgmta9r4t9r5szyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02ug3df4 if you hire women into a boys club without trying to dismantle the boys club or even taking a single step to show the bro code won&#39;t be upheld, the women will hit a glass ceiling one day and you&#39;ll have to decide if you have a heart or not<br/><br/>even sadder is how many men, even one&#39;s who think themselves good, will not even realize their participation in the bro code<br/><br/>superficial allyship hurts marginalized people 2025-11-13T16:24:15Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsrnpj7uj4vuvtsp9uelzx9xx3a399annf372faw93enxyv68xrlkqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02p5de88 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgsnkvx6jkzdc0lerrv7wwuk9l6umau344fwqved6l9658lwvfa0qgcxaw4'>nevent1q…xaw4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>i assume that fedi is infiltrated by other means<br/><br/>social networks of our scale aren&#39;t difficult to influence 2025-11-11T15:22:59Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsrdj5mg6mj2vy4pzwsn53s60hkzp7drn03ks3gmel42gj56m4y3fgzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h023rwh7e In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsg06fdpr0ueep8y9r2p23hvd637uh5n2f9sk09sr04npd228lprys36zglg'>nevent1q…zglg</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>bell hooks said the same in Teaching to Transgress; arguing we should stop the &#34;banking system&#34; of education and instead use Freire&#39;s liberatory pedagogy... fancy words for what you are suggesting ❤️ 2025-11-10T17:07:48Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs8qs5xns45h0v9l3tcjna095rgvp3rwc0hlsxh8dpavdwh2ru6x3qzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02d9jchu &#34;I can&#39;t ignore the contributions of someone brilliant like DHH just because he&#39;s racist.&#34;<br/><br/>why not? you already ignore the contributions of BIPOC people, women, disabled people, queer people, ... 2025-10-31T15:14:51Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsg0wxfxggpkees7k3qe4vl2g72eqe9fcecsfkqdvaupa3z55p9zsczyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02zke3we &#34;a trans woman pissed here and nobody was hurt&#34; except on a t-shirt 2025-08-23T00:32:32Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9qnmwr5aw2yhvucvl4lgqc8a56cpnxkr7d9fewmdvtxvp0kv2rpszyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02qkxxqd In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsp7watkt3cs6eguj53ep67vk4ns3fmf7m3u9czz9md8yzee48vyvshz0c52'>nevent1q…0c52</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>seriously -- it&#39;s SO boring 2025-08-21T16:23:55Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsxx9d73h536zp0kt3g24f78nmfs7zaqg9qjnk0z70r4lf64pvh0pqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02ayweyf In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsf7cfu52ftq4v60q8z4jmhtdfj2rkuzcc0twyu98fp5fz6dpjsvxq7zpeqe'>nevent1q…peqe</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>also-- massive shoutout to nova who is an amazing organizer and connector in this area and is involved in some way (funding, mentoring, coordinating) in basically every one of those 14 events btw ❤️🥰<br/><br/>i saw a thread today about cool transmascs who are making a difference in their community, and i know they don&#39;t like the term transmasc but they sometimes reluctantly apply it.... and anyway, they&#39;re a really fucking cool person! they are making queer liberation happen in such a material way and i am so honoured to participate in it with them! cool gremlins with beards and hot asses are making big differences in our communities too! 2025-08-12T04:46:05Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsf7cfu52ftq4v60q8z4jmhtdfj2rkuzcc0twyu98fp5fz6dpjsvxqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02t0fqj8 there are more than 14 different queer events happening in the next month or so in my lil area and every event seems like something i would enjoy 😊❤️<br/><br/>(although i will probably go to less than 3 of them because im so busy organizing pride and my own event 🫠) 2025-08-12T04:42:28Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsthqvmuuw6r059rjlg3vljhaympka6cyxw9585jx0g3sy56uaeqmszyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02v6xdl4 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqstqd9j6ehxv928fcswgd76arvt3r6zmuvkdeau2t2807r774sg4vqppxavw'>nevent1q…xavw</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>lmao but he totally will justify it 2025-07-29T00:43:40Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9qumgcc32qhcn9dvfuhh2lj8efjjj8jsz5qggyalwcdl6ynwfaqqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02t9mcpp i feel like not enough people know that Schrodinger was a terrible awful man who did horrible things and bragged about it in his journal 2025-07-04T17:46:49Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqswksnprkhhqum6x0mfllsptkstmtdqtlz4swgjtrj024azpqsjg9szyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02x2fuf2 the reason why oppressors are so obsessed with &#34;naturalness&#34; and &#34;biology&#34; is that they want to be able to make a claim about a person&#39;s worth that seems objective within the system of oppression<br/><br/>for example: white-supremacist capitalist patriarchy defines a hierarchy of &#34;strength&#34; — but what does strength mean? it is defined ostensibly and politely as things like: being honourable, physical prowess, strategic competence, innovativeness, leadership skills, charisma, etc. these make a good set of criteria because they really are good qualities. however, where the trick happens is in how these are measured and intuited. intuition comes before the criteria -- people see a white cis man who is physically fit and attractive and automatically assume he meets the criteria. these assumptions lead to confirmation bias, where we see the results that we assume people will produce regardless of what they&#39;ve actually achieved. this assumption happens because it is what people see modeled at all levels of their life: their family, their friends, and the larger society. finally, if anyone challenges this structure they are shown the measurements. they say &#34;his stength and charisma are self evident, look at his results! he is a CEO. he achieved great things!&#34;<br/><br/>things like naturalness and biology make appeals to the natural fallacy or the mcnamara fallacy. they serve to cover over the falsehoods that power the above-mentioned hierarchy of strength. if you question the measurements or the intuitions, an appeal to naturalness or biology or religion serves as a seemingly objective reason to stop thinking any further about whether something may or may not be true.<br/><br/>ultimately this is a cover up for the will to power. it&#39;s a way to get people to forget about empathy and give in to biases in order to preserve power among the powerful.<br/><br/>all oppression stems from these methods. all liberation must work to dismantle them. 2025-06-27T16:37:34Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqswrew4l05j0kv0aeumw637u6mhp4rqs759dsyna5exk2w8d0usqfqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02k7aer7 the idea that only Einstein could give us the theory of relativity is eugenics.<br/><br/>so many people believe stuff like this without realizing it. any time i read someone saying stuff about how we need to enable the &#34;truly great&#34; people more and that would fix everything, i just think &#34;well, i guess you think you&#39;re better than everyone else right? maybe not EVERYONE... but you&#39;ve got a ranking system and you&#39;re not at the bottom.&#34;<br/><br/>the real secret to achieving human greatness is for every single person to be supported and respected to do their best. then and only then will we fully unlock human potential. 2025-06-04T12:45:47Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqspw6t33jjmc9lnwhlmp339he0yy55qw600ufdhhmlld3kxvu0w00gzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h027929n6 look i just think everyone should make their pride theme this year about bricks 2025-06-04T12:26:42Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsp0tq6zkv960uzxfgv2sahvyul0yv5dtdxtxfkld6hcsyj2cd5zlczyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02cj43e6 presented without comment<br/> <img src="https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/45075c32-919b-4365-9ea9-74b285221917.webp"> <br/> 2025-05-29T18:06:08Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs00k0hd35xvlyjn3dkfmkmww7ctj05znqz8pj9dxl0mfk3e0gleygzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h0278x4z8 cats are anarchist<br/><br/>i will not be taking questions 2025-05-19T19:17:43Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsd9cxd5ree36urdszj9p8pzzzd4q00aa3s3nx22usahp0lqtnuusqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h027upu69 the trans obsession with passing should make cis people feel ashamed.<br/><br/>the reason why so many trans people want to pass as cisgender is that we believe deep down that cis people will never accept transgender people.<br/><br/>and no, im not talking about things people want to change because they feel dysphoria (although let&#39;s not forget: gender dysphoria is just as socially constructed as gender is) 2025-04-25T23:37:08Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs86zppsypdxyc0zn5swhmv4300yek249x72fwfsdk80pe667qq89czyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h024vdcp6 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsfyz2e9txl0kme8ey9fhyqf94vqe2ux6n0sjvn96t042rwetufkfqq8xewu'>nevent1q…xewu</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>when i die y&#39;all better tell it like it is &#34;she was a bitchy white transfem with privilege who was kinda hot tbh&#34; 2025-04-21T14:38:55Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsfyz2e9txl0kme8ey9fhyqf94vqe2ux6n0sjvn96t042rwetufkfqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02r3hzt7 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdw5dnwxlr403qdj538t8t0hvy3dljtrvyhrv7rnaf3erwl035vugdurgg8'>nevent1q…rgg8</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>the fact that so many people are making francis out to be some sort of saint is exactly why we are in the mess we are now<br/><br/>everyone is too afraid of being impolite and we have completely normalized what should be considered evil<br/><br/>&#34;well, compared to literal nazis he wasn&#39;t so bad!&#34; 🙄🤡<br/><br/>if you are saying nice things about this man, what will it take for you to condemn evil? 2025-04-21T14:34:15Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsdw5dnwxlr403qdj538t8t0hvy3dljtrvyhrv7rnaf3erwl035vugzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h025wgcdv In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0f3gm23erypfyy98au6h4d68e8euwyw7qsjhnkfmd7kffym4wr9s4ae9qu'>nevent1q…e9qu</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>i do not give a shit if he was marginally good in some ways, he was a bigot who had immeasurable power over an organization that has done and continues to enact violence on millions of people<br/><br/>the next pope after him will almost certainly suck even more and francis did nothing to change anything materially during his time as pope nor did he create a lasting legacy 2025-04-21T14:22:21Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs0f3gm23erypfyy98au6h4d68e8euwyw7qsjhnkfmd7kffym4wr9szyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h026g68m3 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswqk6t042af6cdt75mvzg4a8qquq9u7yru603qpttm6ys34gp93nqlgxsm6'>nevent1q…xsm6</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>pope francis attacked &#34;gender ideology&#34; and also used slurs to describe queer people.<br/><br/>the dude sucked. 2025-04-21T14:18:28Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqswqk6t042af6cdt75mvzg4a8qquq9u7yru603qpttm6ys34gp93nqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h028u2egd the pope was transphobic and therefore sucked btw 2025-04-21T13:51:04Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsx5s2nkujpulkeg3cey6d20nsuermd8ucln6839crj764hg0yvpnszyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02fy4t8e it&#39;s been said before, but it&#39;s important for everyone to remember that furries are like an indicator species for the health of a social ecosystem<br/><br/>the presence of furries being openly furry means that the whole ecosystem has reached a certain point of acceptance and tolerance<br/><br/>i firmly and unironically believe that we won&#39;t have true equality in this world until we have an openly furry world leader (Theodore Roosevelt doesn&#39;t count) 2025-04-14T16:57:58Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsfc49qhswynv5ghz5sturngmw7dvuhgmgdpvl2fpjvqceapsf68tgzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h024tf98d In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsz0hrk3dt9xwy33rxfe58xcdlg5yyzlvvsrgegkajnxj4e326rflsva885f'>nevent1q…885f</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>i got a couple days in Edinburgh coming up -- do i know anyone there? 2025-04-03T03:05:10Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsz0hrk3dt9xwy33rxfe58xcdlg5yyzlvvsrgegkajnxj4e326rflszyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02x4e5sa In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsge000vs9yrxlxsdcf882q8952mxd2466rz4x2dvs5mtgx6dhyvlgzy9gf3'>nevent1q…9gf3</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>my first time traveling trans<br/><br/>minimal stares, but i think some lady took a picture of me 2025-04-03T03:03:24Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsge000vs9yrxlxsdcf882q8952mxd2466rz4x2dvs5mtgx6dhyvlgzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02e2nt90 almost mfing boarding this mfing plane 2025-04-03T03:02:26Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsvy6l5uhgzrvzslfwwrpyy2ds0ksserspyswj6v5uwza4h6g3grrqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02frxzjy In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvvq2wxsu52q5728fj484ezccqe25ken7dmsgls0xwcyydhlcrefgr2ry5h'>nevent1q…ry5h</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>i am fascinated to learn more about this... how did she not know? if you find out i am genuinely curious. 2025-03-18T17:03:27Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsqlaaxkhpvt5vre6sma750xufgqryt6z8lt6c3k8w549pm43eqrzqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h020580zv for the same reason, every trans woman needs an emotional support puppy 🥰<br/> <img src="https://sharkey.stellar.gay/files/webpublic-44fc30b2-d874-4cf3-b30b-5dcaab5575c0.jpg"> <br/> 2025-03-17T12:45:41Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsrkvqce9nj75phpx03n329jcef3pmeyqlw59kcgr754cmwdynu45szyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h028svp53 a thing cis allies could do: obtain gender affirming care and publicly acknowledge it to people they know<br/><br/>getting a boob job? HRT for menopause? HRT for low T? laser hair removal?<br/><br/>affirm ur gender and tell ur friends how great it is<br/><br/>that would be dope, thanks 2025-03-15T16:44:45Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsrdw8586w2na8h735akd5uetw6pu8dak85qaypyxrvlnvjtx5z86qzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h020gktzl In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv5s0s42wlgv96q7zdss9ewvehvrhznmyjjursl9cm5x98hw4fx2cqw57c0'>nevent1q…57c0</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>honestly it probably isn&#39;t even much more fragmented... the further left i go, the more instances i wanna defed :P<br/><br/>i&#39;ve seen a few instances that are allowlist only 2025-03-11T12:44:49Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsv5s0s42wlgv96q7zdss9ewvehvrhznmyjjursl9cm5x98hw4fx2czyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02ydf879 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0zd5ae4a44046gevhpgee950ld5xt80n0kp3xa4qd0rvt0vkzhfg92dvee'>nevent1q…dvee</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>this is just one evil instance in the evil fediverse... the evil fediverse is much more fragmented... some greyer areas than others are even federated with the big ones like .social 2025-03-11T12:43:03Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqst4c8l7es4meuvw3j8dstx2d2lpfchanm0ehtrd76ydh72qge9uuqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02kekmrp i think a lot of people forget that truth social is mastodon... there&#39;s a parallel fediverse that is evil 2025-03-11T12:39:10Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsq2k8zr4lq0kkgqgt84mg0xkykzfrkn6sqvwwxpmcxsq9g05qauyczyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02x90cre call me a heretic if you must, but my vision of trans liberation is a world where everyone knows i am trans but they treat me nice anyway 2025-03-10T00:48:03Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsgzxtm40edv8mtdgh80cq250ugrktnp0yzmtqvh7cfpugjfgfwr6szyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02wz2506 i wanted to search fedi for arch linux enthusiasts and all that comes up are anarchist catgirls 2025-02-03T06:09:33Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsx3psg6gqscherkdkd3qspzvamzlx9ey73cavjdw5kwq3pqhgqmfszyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02ver88y In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs99tweg3aarget6hncwnxfuasu59sjgefeap3arwtlqtaphv9zw8gvmhhv8'>nevent1q…hhv8</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>it could be a lot of things... the user should check if they have MDM installed and if so, do not use that device.<br/><br/>as for how it ends up filtered, i don&#39;t know but i suspect there&#39;s nothing you can do to prevent it.<br/><br/>users will have to get better at avoiding firewalls as the iron curtain drops. 2025-01-27T23:57:32Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsg87w2chpy7g94vr06yjz4ad2g9ejy8ge4fnxg7fckul7p892g5sqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02ysyvc4 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsd7ntz9favw0wz5gj0e7c2e5qysls59jd44sd6tatde9j0egs6sjgrang5f'>nevent1q…ng5f</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>sorry, yeah, i should say i didn&#39;t realize it COULD BE that icky because yeah i have never had that <br/><br/>i didn&#39;t realize the policy allowed installing a proxy like that. does it run on-device??<br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1psr8zw3s0m4z3qztsew5hfmy7qjg28ekfpqd058mx2lcnwqd8p7syuufr4" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Revoluciana</span> (<span class="italic">npub1psr…ufr4</span>)</a></span> 2025-01-27T23:12:07Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsxwczp7jxxv02r6zx9puluglsrugjmng65v2skrd20aec974h9x6szyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02nspeg9 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs988nasj4wucn72gyegzvdqyx7x944px6txu887qelcg8rml5au6gtnyzyc'>nevent1q…yzyc</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>oh yuck! i didn&#39;t realize MDM was so invasive!<br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1psr8zw3s0m4z3qztsew5hfmy7qjg28ekfpqd058mx2lcnwqd8p7syuufr4" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Revoluciana</span> (<span class="italic">npub1psr…ufr4</span>)</a></span> 2025-01-27T23:09:47Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqstay0xjayyqdag4a547ldfnupk9txpzshvmzx9d3j0ud4laplmmqszyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h023z9y07 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsrhehr8dujzzyd2r7cql57zz4uy9g0cn5ertwyh54xvcf0ss4ge0qwydvhr'>nevent1q…dvhr</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>FortiGuard is FortiNet web filtering -- likely on your contact&#39;s network. They should not experience that issue if they turn off WiFi on their phone.<br/><br/>was this at work? 2025-01-27T22:46:18Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsva70dul76vx6xemcmqwv89ughrzr77jee8a9lplf3nn7c077swqczyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h022cdxjm In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqst2z4nsh7s3x98le8dr9pt9x729y60wa5c6y6h5mmsxlu9yl49jkc7uqt6j'>nevent1q…qt6j</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>totally!!!<br/><br/>i had always used current and saw it as a big insult to do otherwise, but idk... someone told me they weren&#39;t and i was like &#34;oh that&#39;s a thing? cool! wait, do i actually care about this for myself?&#34; 2025-01-21T21:01:49Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs0z597ex0pmm8trazdr74wfk0lt9gxlq7n4cfnyup5ezjzk3k635qzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02ja6f3s trans people: how should you be referred to (by yourself and others) before transition? 2025-01-21T20:53:37Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqs9nz454gvapcdarmr2d0u8xvkf6vm2l9cuvxxlt85ahf4e4lsu9yqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02w2at9m In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsw2kdw09kl6p6cvk5txndupklv95hledwwky2aayyhe4p2wwvrhsq3gter5'>nevent1q…ter5</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>what i learned from my ancestors was capitalism, ableism, racism -- kyriarchy. colonization. steeped in it for 21 years. it seems it&#39;ll take me just as long to undo it.<br/><br/>i am enraged by this. whiteness has erased me. i have suppressed who i am in innumerable ways for whiteness. for kyriarchy. we should all be enraged by whiteness. 2025-01-18T03:49:19Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsw2kdw09kl6p6cvk5txndupklv95hledwwky2aayyhe4p2wwvrhsqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02vlyv5u In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqszkzdtvgra4npnj043xqw3lf9w7rqhqhqu2734f4222x55kqgdhlcxkwp2t'>nevent1q…wp2t</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>then there was my alcoholic, distant maternal grandfather and my evil step grandma<br/><br/>they taught me young that offers of fun and glittery rewards dont come without strings. that manipulations and machinations of the powerful emanate from their understanding of your desires and their ability to fulfill them, as long as you follow the path they set out for you. 2025-01-18T03:46:20Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqszkzdtvgra4npnj043xqw3lf9w7rqhqhqu2734f4222x55kqgdhlczyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02jvm34t In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqspjyh7kaz3768y8v6kux8nn8ufkvnclxe2a453vl76kyu4j3ruvnq4yyzzv'>nevent1q…yzzv</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>my paternal grandmother passed on some traditions, but i don&#39;t know if she got them from life in rural Manitoba or passed on from her family or something else. a stranger i have never met has created a genealogy of that side of my family that allows me to look back on it. as a queer neurodivergent trans woman, there are many strange experiences and thoughts that run through my mind: how many of these people were assigned a life they didn&#39;t want to lead and what was the impact of that on us all.<br/><br/>my grandmother says we are Ukranian but the family tree tells another story. also, my grandmother and grandfather were 3rd cousins. both of their families emigrated from some small place in what is now Austria to Manitoba Canada. farmers brought in to colonize the land and prepare it for elites.<br/><br/>i met my great grandfather once. he lived to be 102. he told me about how he casually collected indigenous artifacts from his fields and kept them in a tackle box and i find myself wondering now what ever happened to those when he passed. were these pieces of heritage ever returned by this farmer turned colonizer? a terra forming moment. 2025-01-18T03:43:48Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqspjyh7kaz3768y8v6kux8nn8ufkvnclxe2a453vl76kyu4j3ruvnqzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02lrw638 i am enraged that whiteness has taken from me the possibility of authentic connection to my ancestors.<br/><br/>my grandmother never passed on a single tradition from Ireland except &#34;wear green on st patricks&#34; ... and if she had passed something on what would it be? something rooted in Christianity no doubt. was it good that St Patrick, eloping from his roman duties, converted ireland to Christianity? i dont know. seems like it&#39;s kinda messed things up and the pagan and druid ways i read about before sound pretty dope. were they actually better? who knows. that history is gone for 1500 years. many will say that St Patrick was a good guy though. seems likely. i bet romans were really chill and kind.<br/><br/>it&#39;s no wonder we&#39;re all so messed up living in this manufactured mass produced culture 2025-01-18T03:29:11Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsgxd3g6jgnxc3092cpr0melafcts687l5nxhdvdqmcner9q4v8a2qzyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02vynye2 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsq6fsuqajmz9zrvvpfwp8sj047ulj9ft2cy9gxuun0fk7agfee9cqm8z2dp'>nevent1q…z2dp</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>you can have usernames and links to add contact without phone number sharing 2025-01-17T06:50:58Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqszuvp6xdm445yj3twav5j4j55weksnfn2kvc6eqqlu3xm2ucyf35czyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02jxk24g In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsg0sx826x6h5l542qh0khfpux0edutzemqkdklxkdkx9684kfwgec5hsfld'>nevent1q…sfld</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>people seeing this toot and then going back through my toots to find my tits<br/><br/>look just ask me for my signal link and then you can feel my tits for reals ;p 2025-01-16T05:50:58Z https://yabu.me/nevent1qqsg0sx826x6h5l542qh0khfpux0edutzemqkdklxkdkx9684kfwgeczyp2gy2hnpeygum3mljn6v3jgxxcm06xx0fdc4h68j3d8k86e87h02fcppg5 transition milestone: a toot of my titty gets more faves and boosts than me announcing that my KubeCon EU talk was accepted 2025-01-16T04:34:17Z